I’m a male member, and there’s a woman I’ve been seeing for a year and a half with a comfortable amount of distance between us. We met once or twice a month and only contacted each other when making plans.

I’m Aya, a female member. Even if you felt you were keeping a comfortable distance, to her it may have been a relationship she endured in exchange for receiving an allowance. I’d probably want to cut off contact too if that were the case. But if you get too involved, people may accuse you of being genuinely in love and find it creepy, so it’s difficult. I think you have two choices: risk being seen as genuinely in love and get closer to her, or keep it as a transactional relationship that you’re prepared to have cut off at any time.

I’m Nana Ayase ♡ Questioner, someone mentioned in an answer the other day that an arrangement where you only meet once or twice a month could end at any time, right? Why? Because if you don’t see each other that often, you forget each other. And if a new generous papa (a male supporter) comes along while you’ve forgotten about him, it’s a complete erasure. So, to make sure I’m not forgotten, I send a “good morning” and “good night” message every day. You didn’t notice that she was sending out an SOS. I’m sure some people will think, “Then why doesn’t she just say so?” But when I’m receiving an allowance, I can’t say something like that. I want him to pick up on it himself.

I’m Dai, a male member. First of all, had you created an atmosphere where she felt comfortable speaking openly? Since she’s receiving an allowance, it can be difficult for her to voice any dissatisfaction. A lot of women take a long time to make up their minds, but once they do, they may cut things off decisively and not look back—so be careful.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. A year in the life of us older men is completely different from a year in the life of a young woman. For a young woman, a year is enough time for her outlook to change and for her to move on to the next stage of her life. If I had cards saying “It’s your fault,” “It’s the woman’s fault,” and “It can’t be helped,” I’d hold up “It can’t be helped” in this case.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. Seeing someone once or twice a month is usually a relationship that’s easy to maintain because you keep a reasonable distance and aren’t likely to be dropped. (To put it harshly, it’s a shallow relationship that’s not important enough to matter if it ends at any time.) Since you were together for a year and a half, despite there being little chance of things ending or her cutting you off without some serious reason, the fact that she blocked you suggests she had been putting up with quite a lot and finally reached her limit. You should look at it that way, for your own sake going forward. > She was the woman I’d been seeing the longest through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). At this rate, papa-katsu probably isn’t for you. Unless the other person actually wants to keep seeing you, there’s likely a major issue on your end.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well. Women often put up with a lot. And since they’re always smiling, men usually don’t notice. Reading between the lines here, “someone who would meet me more often” means that the questioner’s allowance was too low. If you weren’t meeting very often, you probably needed to increase the allowance. As for why the arrangement lasted so long, perhaps she simply couldn’t find a man who would offer the allowance she wanted. This time, she found someone like that, so she contacted you and then blocked you. Since you’d been seeing each other for a long time, I think she was at least trying to explain the reason before ending things. Men are usually confident in the allowances they offer. They assume their partner is satisfied with that amount and never imagine that she’s putting up with it. Women understand this too, so they continue seeing them without bringing up the allowance. But if a man with better terms comes along, this is what happens. If you’ve decided in advance how much allowance you’re willing to give, there’s no need to be surprised when the relationship suddenly ends. The breakup was inevitable. After all, you set the allowance without considering her feelings because you were prepared to accept it if she decided she couldn’t manage with that amount. So if things end, it’s probably better to think that you simply weren’t offering enough. If you don’t want that to happen, you should try to consider how the other person feels. She probably gave you plenty of signs before this, but you just didn’t notice...