Tips Oct 27, 2021 19:42

Will a man get tired of me if we meet too often?

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I have a wonderful man who has continued seeing me long-term under a monthly arrangement. Even though he gives me more than enough allowance, he never makes unreasonable demands and always treats me like a gentleman. I feel he's almost too wonderful for me. We’re scheduled to meet next week and the week after, and we’re currently working out the date for the week after next. He suggested three possible dates, the first of which is just three days after our date next week. We usually go on a date once a week, but I really like and respect him both as a man and as a person. After every date, I find myself feeling wistful and thinking, “I want to see him again soon...” I wouldn’t mind going on another date three days after seeing him, but I’m worried that, from his perspective, it might make things feel less fresh or cause him to get tired of me. Maybe the sex would be more exciting if we both held back from seeing each other for a week? I’m having trouble deciding on a date because of these concerns. With a dating club relationship, I feel that even when you’re very close to a man, maintaining an appropriate distance and keeping some private sides of yourselves undisclosed helps prevent things from becoming routine and allows the relationship to continue. I want to become closer to him, but I’m also afraid of getting too involved. I’m feeling very conflicted—what would be the right thing to do? I’m sorry for the rambling post, but I’d really appreciate your advice.
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It happens pretty often, haha. None of mine have lasted more than two years, haha. The women who’ve continued for five or even ten years are all in monthly arrangements.
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Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. I think whether you get bored depends on how well the two of you click. If you’re compatible, you may meet more often and even develop a relationship where you can’t stay away from each other. Once a week is a very good pace, so I don’t think meeting again three days later would be a problem. As long as you’re not meeting every two or three days continuously, it should be fine. As for whether you can take things further, you can usually get a sense of the relationship and your compatibility within the first few meetings. It may be best to maintain the current distance for now.
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I’m BB7. I kept some distance because I worried that meeting too often might make him lose interest, but then my papa (a male supporter) suddenly became seriously ill, and now we can’t meet at all. It made me wish I’d spent time with him whenever I had the chance. Things can end this way too.
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ダイ
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member. It really depends on the person. Personally, I think meeting too often would make things feel stale, so I keep my arrangements to about once a month. I think the safest approach is to follow the man’s preferred dating style.
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カズ
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member. No one knows which choice is the right one, so I think you should simply go with what feels right to you. Personally, if I’m seeing someone every week, I don’t get tired of them just because we meet frequently. Besides, if we’re scheduled to meet once a week, even if the meetings are close together, it would only mean there’s a longer gap between the meeting the week after next and the one after that.
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