A question about money. My mother told me that once my parents are gone, I’ll have to find some way to survive on my own because they won’t be able to leave me anything.
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I only graduated from high school and can barely even write kanji (due to personal circumstances), so I’m thinking about becoming a hostess.
I don’t want to use graduating from high school as an excuse, but in my case, my parents are the only relatives I can truly rely on. I also stopped attending school, so I can’t even write kanji. That’s why earning money while I’m still young seems more appealing to me.
I know I’m at fault for making things difficult for my parents, but are women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in circumstances similar to mine?
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with an answer as well.
The way it’s written—“If you can barely even write kanji, you should become a hostess”—makes it sound like you’re looking down on hostesses.
But hostesses need to be able to engage with men on all kinds of topics, so if anything, it seems like a job you can’t do unless you’re pretty smart.
> Earning money while you’re young seems more attractive.
I’m not sure what you mean. What are you imagining as the opposite of earning money while you’re young?
Regardless of age, I think it’s a good thing to seriously try to earn money. You should think about how you can make money and whether there are any other options as well.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
These days, you can review what you learned in school through YouTube, and you’ll find plenty of online courses if you search for them. I think it would be best to build up some basic academic skills first, then focus on a regular day job while also working as a hostess. Being a hostess requires intelligence too, and you won’t last long without it, so with your current situation, getting completely immersed in nightlife would be risky.
Or you could go all in and find an older man through a marriage agency and get married. I’ve heard that back in the Showa era, that was, in a sense, a survival strategy for women.
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I’m Ayase Nana♡
When your parents pass away, it’s normal to have to work and support yourself.
Instead of saying you can’t write, why not study? These days, you won’t find a job if you can’t use a computer.
People have to keep learning until they die. Even hostesses won’t make any money if they don’t think strategically.
It’s not because you didn’t go to school—studying is something you have to do on your own.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
There are plenty of people who have regular day jobs despite only graduating from high school or not being able to write kanji.
There’s nothing wrong with working as a hostess, but I’m concerned that she seems to think it’s an easy way to make money.
As you get older, you won’t be able to make it in that line of work unless you develop the ability to hold conversations and entertain people.
As for women involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), some are in the same situation, while others aren’t.
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To answer your question directly: some people may be in the same situation, but there are also plenty of people who aren’t.
I think earning money while you’re young is a good thing. When you’re young, you can push yourself harder, and there are options available specifically because of your age, so I’m not going to dismiss it!!
That said, I don’t think it’s possible to earn enough to last your entire life this way. Wouldn’t it reduce your risks to also find a way to earn money over the long term?
That way, even if something unpleasant happens, you’ll have a way out, which I think can also help you maintain your peace of mind...
Also, I don’t think you get many chances to write kanji these days. Your PC and tablet usually do the converting for you. There are plenty of times when what you learn at school doesn’t come in handy!!
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Regardless of your family’s income, I think everyone should find a way to support themselves so they can still make a living after their parents are gone.
For most people, university is little more than a way to meet the requirements for applying to major companies’ mass hiring of new graduates. University graduates often earn more over their lifetimes than high school graduates, but that’s about the extent of what university offers in most cases. Simply being able to write kanji doesn’t guarantee you’ll land a good job.
Your circumstances aren’t particularly unusual, nor do I think they put you at a disadvantage. Whether you work as a hostess or engage in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you can do well regardless of your educational background—it comes down to your personal qualities. Best of luck.
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