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Oct 25, 2021 15:50
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How can I meet someone I can truly respect?
How can I keep people from looking down on me?
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Other
Do men see you as someone they:
- Don’t want to lie to
- Don’t want to be disliked by
Or are they the kind of thoughtless men who’ll say anything just to see you smile?
I guess it’s one or the other.
Akari
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Isn’t that what it means to be a leader?
Honest, obedient people can’t climb to the top by stepping on others.
Perhaps you’ve misunderstood something?
It’s not good to trust people too much, either.
Take it in moderation…
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
That’s a difficult question.
I don’t think you often get the chance to meet someone you truly respect, so I feel all you can do is wait patiently. Besides, it’s not as though you can respect just anyone.
As for how to keep people from looking down on you, I honestly don’t know either.
People look down on me everywhere I go(笑)
Unfortunately, I don’t know how to prevent it, but perhaps the key is to make sure it doesn’t cause you problems even when someone does look down on you.
For example, suppose someone says, “I’ll give you this much,” but then doesn’t.
Since it’s easy to imagine the same thing happening again, you could consider recording them when they make the promise.
The reason we normally don’t record people is because we trust them. When dealing with someone you can’t trust, you need to respond accordingly.
Also, even if they say they’ll give you something, if they don’t specify when, there’s a chance they’ll keep putting it off. So you should ask when you can expect to receive it. Setting a deadline is important.
Furthermore, there’s always a possibility that, for some reason, they won’t be able to give it to you by then. It would be a good idea to discuss what will happen in that case—whether, for example, they can give you cash instead.
Of course, doing this with an ordinary, trustworthy person would be rude, so as a rule, you shouldn’t. The point is to make sure the terms are clear when dealing with someone who lies.
Even after taking all those precautions, various other problems may still come up. When that happens, think, “I still wasn’t careful enough,” and try to close those loopholes next time.
Putting this into practice is difficult, and the other person may even threaten to end things with you. Still, I feel it’s best to face the situation with courage.
“Courage” means knowing fear!
It doesn’t mean making fear your own!!
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
I think you need to look reasonably attractive so people don’t take you lightly. I also feel that if you’re bad at saying no, people may take advantage of you. Other than that, though, it might just come down to luck...
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
There are plenty of opportunities to meet people, so take your time and choose carefully.
At the first meeting, you can’t really tell whether you’ll respect someone or not. I think it’s best to get a sense of them by talking, observing their mannerisms, and listening to their way of thinking.
Relationships through a dating club are fairly superficial at first, so I recommend taking a little time to get to know and assess the person. Rather than focusing too much on the allowance, try to look at the person themselves.
Other
I’m columnist Shingo Lee (Shingori).
It’s the other way around.
They’re CEOs precisely because they can casually renege on agreements and focus on their own interests. If the world ran on goodwill alone, we wouldn’t need contracts.
You’re far too ignorant about how society works.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I believe that if you want to meet someone you can respect, you should first become someone worthy of respect yourself. Once people respect you, they’re less likely to take you lightly.
Of course, even if you’re a respectable person, you can’t completely avoid meeting people who leave you questioning their character...