I have a papa who wants to meet four times a month for 100,000 yen (with intimacy), and he’s asking me to see only him… I’d prefer 50,000 yen per meeting, but he says 100,000 yen a month is his limit.
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Should I compromise?
I can’t help thinking that if he can’t spend much money, maybe he shouldn’t be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in the first place.
Unless you genuinely want to see him or feel attracted to him enough to accept that,
I don’t think it’s going to work.
I was once told,
“Ten a month, huh…
If it’s ten, I’d want to see you every week—or even more.”
The fact that he didn’t realize his own words were belittling and insulting me made me feel that it was already over.
Akari
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
If you’re hoping for an allowance of 50,000 yen per meeting, I don’t think you need to compromise.
If he’s offering 100,000 yen a month, you could suggest meeting twice a month at 50,000 yen per meeting. In the first place, though, there’s no need to make it a monthly arrangement.
That amount seems too low to commit to seeing only him.
If he can’t accept those terms, I’d suggest giving up and looking for another man.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
It sounds like he’s taking advantage of you. For now, use the allowance from that papa to invest in yourself and improve your appeal, get tons of offers from other men, and then say goodbye to him.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
Four times is pretty awful...
At least three times.
Try asking for three times a month. If that’s not possible, I think you should end things.
And if they tell you again, “You’re the only one,” just kick them to the curb.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Whether you give in or stand your ground is for you to decide.
Rather than asking whether that papa (a male supporter) should be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), shouldn’t the question be whether you choose to accept or decline?
If you stick to a pay-per-meeting allowance of 50,000 yen and receive that amount, then whether it’s this papa or someone else, the amount you receive is the same: 50,000 yen per meeting.
If you’re getting plenty of offers, you can simply turn him down. If you aren’t—or you’re still unsure—perhaps tell him again for now that your terms are 50,000 yen per meeting. The decision is ultimately yours.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
How about meeting once a month on a pay-per-meeting arrangement for ¥50,000? That’s what I’d do… Wouldn’t even ¥50,000 be appreciated?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s not about whether I’m willing to compromise or not—it’s simply that you can’t spend money you don’t have.
That said, if you can’t afford to spend much on the person asking the question, you have no right to tell her she shouldn’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
If his monthly budget is 100,000 yen and you’re asking for 50,000 yen per meeting, why not agree to meet twice a month?
As for his request that you see only him, that’s entirely up to you.
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