Tips Oct 23, 2021 19:06

I’m a female member.

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The papa I’ve been seeing for several months often talks about his past relationships. Apparently, he’s dated glamorous women, including celebrities and hostesses at Ginza clubs. (He’s a tall, handsome business owner, so it’s probably true.) After telling me things like that, he always says something along the lines of, “I prefer an ordinary girl like you—someone you could find anywhere.” Is that meant to be a compliment from a man’s perspective? I can’t help feeling like I’m being insulted, though ^^; Also, I find it strange that a man like my papa, who still seems to be very popular with women, would go out of his way to meet an ordinary student like me—not exactly a stunning beauty—and give me an allowance. I’m sure he has plenty of women to choose from, so I’m constantly worried that he’ll end things with me. What do you think I can do to keep things going long-term with a man like this? Thank you.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well. > Do you think he meant it as a compliment to the man? I believe it was meant as a compliment. He may have grown a little tired of dating flashy, high-maintenance women all the time. In that case, an ordinary woman can suddenly look much more appealing. Come to think of it, Boys Over Flowers was also about the heir to the Domyouji conglomerate falling for an ordinary girl.
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I’m Kurasaki from Universe Club Customer Success, and I’ll answer your question. That man probably wants to show off—basically, “I’ve dated a woman this attractive.” You say you’re just a student, but being a student is a status in itself. Being a current student—and young—is something even the most beautiful celebrity or hostess can never get back once it’s gone. If you use the allowance you receive from that papa to buy makeup and designer goods and become the kind of woman you’d see at an upscale club, he’ll probably cut you loose. I think you should stay just an ordinary student your age for as long as you’re a student.
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出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. After insulting and slapping your papa (a male supporter), gently stroke his head and comfort him. Suddenly turn cold, then be as needy and affectionate as possible afterward. Give him an erotic reward when he follows an order. Keep those emotional highs and lows as extreme as possible, and train him into a submissive, masochistic slave. No, this isn’t a bad thing. That papa is probably looking for that kind of stimulation. He used to be popular, and even now he probably lives in a predictable world where people fawn over him. He must be lacking excitement. Try it as a way of helping someone.
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I’m Aya, a female member. This sounds a lot like my handsome older papa. The key to keeping things going is becoming a woman with a truly one-of-a-kind personality. I took my time showing my papa my individuality, and occasionally let my yandere side show to keep him hooked. Someone who seems like an ordinary girl at first, but becomes more interesting the more you get to know her. I think men who are tired of hostesses and celebrities are looking for exactly that kind of woman.
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I’m Osaka, a male member. Please take what I’m saying as just one biased opinion, haha. The questioner is being drawn into this handsome guy’s game a little, but why not try to turn the tables, even if it’s a long shot? Ah, it would be troublesome if that handsome guy happened to be reading this, but assuming he isn’t, here’s my take: being handsome is part of a handsome guy’s identity, so he becomes attached to being popular. That’s why he’s bragging and trying to one-up you, but being handsome doesn’t necessarily mean he’s genuinely been popular with everyone, haha. I’ve encountered exceptions like that myself. Many women judge men as a whole, so squealing over idols is a completely different thing from romantic interest. So take advantage of that. For now, agree with him that he’s unbelievably handsome and that just looking at his face makes you swoon. Above all, satisfy his need for validation about his looks. Keep telling him how handsome he is, haha. At the same time, gradually slip in the kinds of things you want by saying how happy you are when a handsome guy behaves thoughtfully or does certain considerate things, haha. For example: “Handsome guys naturally have great taste, so they never show up late, right? So handsome♡” Then he’ll stop being late, haha. Use that approach to plant the idea that a popular, handsome man is the kind of guy who does these things. People who fulfill someone’s need for validation are rare. He’ll feel very comfortable being with you and will start treating you well, haha. Of course, you shouldn’t let yourself get carried away just because he’s handsome. Otherwise, he’ll take advantage of you, and handsome guys can get bored surprisingly quickly. If you have enough experience to realize that handsome guys can be surprisingly mentally fragile or shallow as men, they can sometimes be easy to handle. The reason I wanted to give this advice in the first place is that he was bragging, haha. Anyway, this is just my biased opinion, so feel free to ignore it.
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Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中! B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです! 会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
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I’m Hikōki, a male member. > Glamorous women such as hostesses at Ginza clubs By the time you’ve been courted and treated to their hospitality, I imagine you may already have moved past the stage where it feels exciting. With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), men can also take pleasure in hosting and making women feel comfortable and enjoy themselves. So I think you’ll be fine as long as you remain yourself and continue sharing simple, natural moments of fun. Since you haven’t yet had much experience beyond the age of around 23, I imagine that many fresh and exciting experiences are still happening for the men you meet each time they see you. Building lots of those kinds of memories together is what I believe leads to a lasting relationship.
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I’m a male member named Kazu. I don’t think it was meant as a compliment, but he was probably trying to soften the blow so the questioner wouldn’t feel discouraged. That said, I do think he’s simply grown tired of Ginza hostesses. The reality is that this man is currently meeting the questioner and giving her an allowance. In other words, there’s no doubt that he wants an allowance-based relationship with her. If she wants to keep things going, I think she needs to continue providing, in moderation, what he’s looking for. No one else—and perhaps not even he himself—knows exactly what that is. She’ll have to figure it out for herself.
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