I'm a man. Because of work and family commitments, I told her from the beginning that I could only meet once a month, and we had been seeing each other on that basis. I also told her I had no problem with her having other papas.

This is Fuu, a column writer. If you were a good papa, I’m sorry, but we can’t know the reason. That’s a personal matter on her end. Unfortunately, you’ve been removed from her rotation of papas—in other words, you’ve been cut from the roster. At least she told you goodbye, so you can move on and start looking elsewhere right away. Isn’t that better than being left wondering because she suddenly stopped responding? It can’t be helped, so let’s move on to someone else. Make plenty of offers and find an even better girl than her.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too. > At the beginning, she agreed that we could only meet once a month. That wasn’t really something she agreed to—you simply told her that was all you could do. It wouldn’t be surprising if she thought, “If I can only meet him once a month, I should look for someone I can see more often.” > What reason could she have for deliberately ending things? You’d have to ask her directly to know for sure, but it’s possible she had some dissatisfaction, such as feeling that the allowance was too low. Women are more likely to keep quiet about their dissatisfaction. > She was such a good girl, so this came as a shock. If she was such a good girl, why didn’t you give her a more generous allowance? Well, if you were already paying her well, then the cause may have been something else, and this might be off the mark. But in most cases, the allowance being too low is the reason. > From a man’s perspective, if she needed money, wouldn’t it make sense for her to meet another papa who could see her often, and meet me occasionally as well? I understand why a man might think that way, but from a woman’s perspective, many seem to feel they were exploited when they were seeing a man for a low allowance. They probably want to end things as quickly as possible with someone who exploited them. Of course, while they’re together, they usually won’t voice their dissatisfaction. They’ll thank you properly and say things like they’re happy to see you. But if you were giving such a nice woman a low allowance, it’s understandable that she might feel exploited. In a sense, this should have been apparent before you were shocked by what happened. You should assume that someone will be fine with a low allowance only when you have considerably more to offer as a person than anyone else.

I’m Aya, a female member. I think she’s simply lost the motivation to continue seeing the person who asked the question. For women, the motivation to continue an arrangement is the product of: “the allowance × how attractive and well-groomed he is × their compatibility at the hotel × how much the woman wants to save money.”

I’m Kazu, a male member. The more partners you have, the greater the risk of STIs, so I don’t think it’s unusual for someone to prefer not to have intimate relationships with many different people. Most women probably rank their papas in order of priority and decide to date a certain number of them from the top down. That number might be three, one, or ten, depending on the woman, but in this case, I think the person asking the question simply didn’t make the cut.