I’m Aya, a female member.
If it were me and the papa (a male supporter) and I weren’t that close yet, I’d let go of the idea of asking him to buy me something… There’s a very high chance he’d think I was being pushy.
I’d say, “Yes, thank you so much ♡ I’m happy that I’ll be able to relax with ×× at your place (insert some cute emoticon to show how pleased I am).”
Then, once he replies, I’d say, “I’m looking forward to it ♪ Oh, that reminds me! I forgot to mention this, but I might have my period that day…”
I’d see how he reacts and then bring up the allowance from there…
If I told him I might be on my period and he said, “Then maybe we should just have lunch,” I’d figure I could bring up the allowance next time.
But if I told him and he said, “That’s too bad. Should we reschedule?” I’d message something like:
“I’m sorry. It’s so kind of you to be considerate—thank you ♡ Um, if that does happen, would I still be able to receive some spending money…? I know this is a really awkward thing to ask, but I was wondering how you feel about it, ××…”
I know people may have different opinions, but I think men are happier when you minimize the transactional feel as much as possible, so I tend to put off talking about the amount for as long as I can…
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Why do people ask complete strangers here about things that seemingly only the person who said them could know?
Whether “let’s take it slow” means an adult relationship (intimate) or simply that he genuinely wants to take things slowly is something only he knows. If someone tells you that, just ask, “What do you mean?” That should clear things up.
Since you didn’t ask at the time, there’s nothing you can do about that now. But if he suggests going to a hotel room that day, I think all you can do is ask, “What are you thinking in terms of the allowance?” And if you’re on your period, you’ll just have to say, “I’m on my period today.”
Can’t the questioner go shopping alone?
To avoid these pointless exchanges, papa (a male supporter) should bite the bullet and be clear if he wants sex, while also discussing the allowance at the same time. Making the woman be the one to bring up the embarrassing subject shouldn’t be considered part of the allowance. Why are there grown adults who can’t manage something so simple? It’s lamentable.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
Why not just ask him directly?
“Thank you for the invitation.
Does this mean you’d like to go to a room?
You’re a nice person, so I’m starting to feel that I might be open to that, but I’m also wondering about the allowance.
I’d also like to go shopping before or after lunch.
I’d be happy to spend time with someone as dependable as you, including things like that.”
(It might sound a little calculated to mention shopping, though.)
I think it’s perfectly fine to ask so directly, but I wonder if some people might dislike that.
If you don’t ask, you may end up thinking later that things weren’t what you expected, so I think it’s better to be clear beforehand.
Also, if the allowance is an amount you’re comfortable with, it might be a good idea to let him know something like:
“However, it looks like I’ll be having my period that day…”
