I experienced papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for the first time. We only had dinner, and there was no money involved.
My feelings are a mix of guilt, uncertainty about whether to meet him again, and a voice of conscience telling me I shouldn’t get involved with papa-katsu anymore.
My papa-katsu partner wouldn’t reveal his identity. He said he’d like to see me again. Also, we didn’t meet through this club.
I’ve realized that papa-katsu probably isn’t for me because my conscience is already bothering me, but I’d still like to see him again because he treats me to delicious meals.
Why was I rejected by Universe Club? The man said I was beautiful.
(I’m going to try not to visit this site starting tomorrow.)
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I’d like you to consider whether the money is really worth the negative feelings you’re having. If all you get is a meal, that time is likely to be painful for you.
The papa (male supporter) you met may say he wants to see you again because he thinks he might be able to have an adult relationship (intimate) with you for free.
My guess is that the club rejected you because you seemed to lack initiative, they were worried about whether you could keep your promises, or they felt that you didn’t understand papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) even after it was explained to you.
That said, if you still feel it isn’t worth it even with an allowance, then this probably isn’t for you, so it’s best to quit.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Everyone’s saying it, right? Since there’s no exchange of money, it isn’t papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
That kind of thing is what people call a friends-with-benefits situation or a free hookup—you’ll just end up being treated like someone who’ll do for anyone.
If you’ve had enough, block and delete his contact right away. You didn’t tell him where you live, did you?
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From the way you describe it, maybe you chose Type A.
You seem somewhat conservative, and if even having dinner only without an allowance feels like taking a huge leap, perhaps the staff sensed that and turned you down.
It may not have been because of your looks after all.
That’s just my guess, though.
Marika
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Just getting a free meal isn’t papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Papa-katsu means receiving an allowance even when it’s only dinner.
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I’m in Seattle.
Next time you meet—or rather, before meeting—make sure you clearly tell him to give you 10,000 yen.
Dinner only isn’t papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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