Do women who receive lots of offers and meet many men come across as experienced with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? I’m Platinum B, and whenever I find a monthly papa (a male supporter), I leave the club after two or three months and repeat the process (I always have at least five pay-per-meeting or dinner-only (no intimacy) papas). I’ve been with the club for six months in total and have met nearly 30 men. However, almost all of the men talk to me when we first meet as if they assume I don’t have any other papas. I always have pay-per-meeting papas and an income of around ¥200,000–¥300,000 a month, but if I can earn more, I’d like to receive a substantial amount every month—at least ¥400,000—so I always want to have a monthly papa as well. Whenever I find one through the club, I leave and repeat the process. I’m a female university student living alone, but I also have a part-time job, and my monthly expenses are ¥200,000–¥300,000, so most of it actually goes straight into savings.
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I assume it’s because the men have no idea how many offers women receive, but they approach me with the attitude of, “You don’t have a papa, right?” Then, as we talk and I mention men I’ve met through the club in the past, they seem a little put off and say, “Wow, you’ve met a lot of men…!” Some people also don’t like the idea of me having other papas, which puts me in an awkward position. I end up thinking, “I’ve known several of these men for much longer than I’ve known you…”
Why do they approach me with the assumption that I don’t have any other papas when we first meet? I don’t mean to brag, but I’m attractive, and the men at the club almost always compliment my looks. I assume I look appealing to them because of my appearance, but if someone looks attractive, wouldn’t it be fairly obvious that she might have other men and have met quite a few men before…?
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well.
> Do you get turned off when a woman has received lots of offers and met many men, because she seems experienced with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
Whether she has actually met many men isn’t the issue.
If she tells me, “I’ve slept with lots of men,” I’ll probably be put off. That said, some men might find it impressive, so you can’t make a blanket statement.
Men who like women who have slept with lots of men are probably also the type who enjoy going to sex-industry establishments.
> He approaches me with the attitude that I probably don’t have any other papas (male supporters), but as we talk and I mention men I’ve met through clubs in the past, he seems a little put off and says, “Wow, you’ve met a lot of them…!”
That reaction is only natural.
Even if you’ve actually met many men, I don’t think you should talk about past club men.
It’s best to simply imply that there may be others. Being so direct about it comes across as a little too clumsy.
> Why do they approach me from the first meeting with the assumption that I don’t have any other papas?
You’re probably a refined, beautiful woman. Perhaps you have an air that makes you seem like the daughter of some wealthy family.
That makes people wonder, “Why is someone like her on a dating club?”—and they become interested.
That’s probably why they assume you don’t have any other papas.
I think it’s best to handle this smoothly and deflect the question.
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I’m BB7.
I think he wants to dream that this girl doesn’t have any other papas.
Once you get used to it, though, you stop seeing dreams or illusions. Maybe he’s just not an experienced papa?
If he’s an experienced papa who doesn’t like women who seem to get a lot of offers from other men, I don’t think he’d make an offer in the first place.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I’m a Black-tier member, so I’m given some information in advance, such as the approximate number of offers.
So I know what I’m talking about.
If you can move up to the Black tier after a reshoot, you’ll only be dealing with Black-tier men, so I think that kind of annoyance will disappear.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Maybe he isn’t very familiar with clubs. I think that’s true of many men. I’ve had similar experiences myself, but I just smiled and took it as one of those things.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It wouldn’t put me off. If anything, it makes things easier and less complicated.
I assume that any woman I make an offer to probably has at least a few papas (male supporters). If she’s been registered for several months but says she doesn’t have any, I honestly start to wonder whether she’s someone who isn’t being upfront with me.
Anyone who talks as if they have no other papas is probably pretending they’ve wandered into some kind of fantasyland.
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