I’ll be away on an overseas business trip for a while and won’t be able to see my papa (a male supporter). We usually meet once a week—do you think he’ll have sex with other girls while I’m gone? He will, right…?
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I’m sad. The more I imagine it, the more I’m starting to dislike him…
When I come back, I’m scared of catching something.
Would it be rude to ask him to get tested a month after I return?
I’m worried it’ll come across as though I don’t trust him…
Is there anything I can say to my papa (a male supporter) to ask him not to have relationships with other girls?
You’re the one away on a business trip, right? Whoever was left behind in Japan for a month was probably pretty bored. I’ve been left behind for two months before, but I have other papas.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There’s no way to know whether he’s seeing other women or not. Hating him based on assumptions like that is selfish and pretty harsh.
Unless you’re already in the habit of discussing how you both get tested regularly, asking him to get tested would, as you said, come across as disrespectful because it implies you don’t trust him.
Simply putting it into words probably won’t stop him from being involved with other women. I think it depends on how he thinks, how you usually treat him, and how satisfied you make him feel.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
As has been said many times, it’s difficult for either men or women to try to have an exclusive relationship in a mistress-type arrangement.
Also, just because someone has traveled abroad doesn’t automatically mean they’ve been seeing women there.
If he hasn’t even been intimate with anyone, being told, “Please get tested for STIs,” may make him feel suspected. On the other hand, I think the questioner may also end up wondering whether she’s been with other men, causing both sides’ frustrations to build.
As for STI testing, the basic approach would be to discuss having both of you get tested regularly, regardless of overseas business trips.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
At this point, you’ve got nothing to lose, so just ask him to get tested for STIs.
And you, questioner—don’t see any other papas. Just be patient for a month.
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I’m in Seattle.
Maybe the only thing I can say is, “Please marry me.” Whether I actually mean it or not is beside the point.
If you won’t marry me, I’ll say, “Then get tested for STIs,” and fake-cry.
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