I’m a female member living in a separate apartment building from my papa, and we see each other twice a week. I’ve suddenly lost feelings for him. But I live here…

I’m Dai, a male member. It depends on how much you have. If it’s just a few boxes of clothes, books, and so on, you should have plenty of time as long as there’s a convenience store nearby. I think it would be best to leave appliances and furniture behind. As other respondents have mentioned, you should leave a note. There’s no point in writing about your grievances, so just keep it brief and express your thanks.

I’m Taro, a male member. If you can find even one free day in advance, couldn’t you move out? Unless you live in a huge mansion, a moving company can handle everything for you, even without much preparation. It’ll cost more, but if you’re confident you can earn enough, it’s probably better to use them and make a clean break. You could take your time and ease into it, but that would take longer, so factoring in the value of your time, I think a quick switch is the better option. You should leave a farewell note. Put your gratitude into it, while making it clear that your decision to leave is firm. Basically, it’s to prevent things from getting messy later. Even if they harass you out of spite, dealing with it would be a waste of time. On the other hand, if they think there’s a chance you might get back together and keep pestering you, that wouldn’t be good either. Still, being confident that you can earn money through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is impressive. Does that mean you’ve already been receiving offers discreetly and have a few promising candidates lined up? If not, I’d say you’re just fantasizing. I’m not making fun of you—you really should think through your exit plan properly. If your intention is to live without planning your life, that’s fine too, and I won’t deny that it can be admirable.

I’m Aya, a female member. Would it be possible to leave a note and move everything out while your papa is away at work? Since dealing with belongings left behind can be difficult, I think it’s best not to leave behind any large furniture either. (That’s what one papa told me a long time ago.) It would be good to leave a thank-you email or letter as well. To avoid making him suspicious and causing him to search for you, I think it’s best to clearly express your gratitude and leave on good terms.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I can’t say whether it’s better to disappear without anyone knowing. I don’t know how much luggage you have, so I can’t say whether you’ll make it in time, either. There are moving companies that specialize in discreet, sensitive relocations, such as moving out overnight. Try searching for “overnight moving” or similar. If you hire one of those companies and have them move everything out in a single day, you might be able to relocate without being found.