I feel that, as a mistress, I’m probably expected to always be someone who comforts him when I’m with him. Even when something upsetting happens or I’m feeling down, I shouldn’t show it in front of him, right?
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So who can a mistress truly open up to? Who can she show her tears to?
Is it ultimately better to have multiple other partners?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Oh, I really don’t think that’s the case at all〜. You can probably take it a little easier. At least, I don’t really feel like I’m healing my papa. If anything, I’m the one causing him trouble, lol.
I just got off the phone with that handsome older papa, and he burst out laughing, saying, “Thanks for pulling me back into the kind of childish romance I had in my twenties, lol!” Apparently, because I get really upset when he goes out drinking around Roppongi, he finds it annoying that he has to report his every move to me.
When he grumbled, “Why the hell do I have to do all this for a woman?!” I said, “So I don’t get upset, right?” and he laughed even harder.
I think the whole “the more troublesome the child, the more lovable they are” thing probably applies to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) too.
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You may have your own idea of what a mistress should be, but I don’t think that’s the whole story. After all, we’re still a man and a woman.
Of course, you shouldn’t go too far, but that doesn’t mean you have to be completely accommodating all the time.
I sometimes talk to him when something unpleasant happens to me, too.
If you push yourself too hard, it won’t last.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member with a strong masochistic streak who gets showered with abuse not only by my daughter and wife, but also by my ace girl.
Mistresses each have their own personalities and come in all kinds of arrangements.
At least with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), depending on the woman, she may be able to let her true feelings out and blow off steam as freely as she likes.
My ace girls include one fun, fiery, extremely sadistic type,
and another demure, refined, obedient girl who comforts me.
Having both extremes to enjoy is truly overwhelming—in the best possible way.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
> I feel that a mistress probably always has to be someone who comforts him when she’s with him. Even if something unpleasant or upsetting happens, you shouldn’t show it in front of him, right?
That’s not true at all (lol).
I think both men and women should be able to open up completely—to comfort each other, be comforted, feel down, bounce back (lol), laugh, and cry.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t think that’s true.
At least, the women I’ve continued seeing complain to me when something unpleasant happens. There have even been several times when they came crying to me after having a bad experience on a date with another man.
Women who never do that seem too perfect—it would actually feel strange, so I don’t think things would last.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think a relationship where only one person does all the comforting is unnatural.
I want women to open up to me honestly, and if something unpleasant or upsetting happens, I want them to feel comfortable showing me their tears.
Ideally, we would comfort and support each other.
That’s separate from having multiple other partners.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
It does sound a bit like a theory about having a mistress, though I’m not sure whether that’s considered normal.
I don’t know if everyone feels this way, but I think there are probably some people you can talk to when something unpleasant or upsetting happens.
Some papas may even be happy when you show them your true feelings or let them see you cry. Of course, being overly emotionally unstable could be difficult.
But I feel it’s okay to show that side of yourself to about the same extent you would in a normal boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
Why not try finding a papa like that?
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