Am I starting to lose something inside? I’m in my 20s, working during the day and thinking about starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through a dating club as a side job. At my daytime part-time job, customers yell at me, take out their stress on me, and treat me like I’m not even a person, and it’s exhausting. Of course, I can put up with it because I’m being paid. I also suspect that I may be an adult child.
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I have an older brother, but even though he’s almost 30, my mother looks through his bag and pay slips without permission. She’s also the kind of parent who wants to monitor me.
Maybe that’s why I have no desire to get married or have children.
So I find transactional relationships appealing. Somehow, I feel that the male members probably have their own problems as well. That’s what my question is about.
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer this one too.
If you realize your question is hard to understand, maybe you should just make the question itself clearer.
So, um, is your question:
“Am I starting to lose something?”
（笑）
If that’s what you’re asking, then I suppose the answer is yes.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I feel like the male members haven’t completely given up on being a man, deep down. But I’m not sure whether that in itself is a problem. If their wives find out, then yes, it’s a problem—and since they’re causing trouble for someone else, I think it’s pretty awful. But if they’re going to take it to their graves, maybe it’s okay… or so I sometimes think.
That’s why, to avoid hurting their families over this “problem,” I really hope they take thorough precautions…
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Even though I have a lot of problems, I’m getting through life by working them out one at a time（笑）
Well, I suppose that’s probably true for most people.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I wasn’t sure what you meant by “there,” since I couldn’t tell where in the question you were referring to.
For now, try thinking about whether there might be something you’re doing that causes customers to yell at you during your part-time job.
As long as you see it as people taking their stress out on you or treating you like you’re not human, you won’t grow as a person.
Even if you register with a dating club as you are now, you probably won’t receive good feedback from the men and will end up saying that some older guy used you as an outlet for his stress.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
The question-like sentence at the beginning and the phrase “That’s my question” at the end caught my attention. Since I wasn’t sure which one was the actual question, I’ll try answering both.
I don’t know whether something in the questioner is beginning to break down or not.
I agree that male members seem to have their own problems as well. I don’t think there’s anyone in this world who doesn’t have problems.
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I’m Hikōki, a male club member.
You’re free to see it that way. Everything is up to you.
And if you don’t have any questions, that’s fine too.
P.S.
Since you kept asking questions directed at the respondents, I assumed that was what you meant—but you’re actually asking about male members…
Judging from your question, though, I get the impression that you may not be well suited to the club. There’s a high risk that you’ll be treated much like a part-time worker there too—or rather, that few people will take a liking to you. I think you’d need a pretty major image makeover.
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