What’s with people who say things like, “You’ve got a nice item there~” about a woman’s belongings?
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I can understand it if someone is carrying something worth several million yen, like a Birkin, but papas often say this to me about luxury-brand items that cost less than ¥200,000. Is there an underlying sarcastic implication, like, “Oh, did another man buy that for you~”?
I’ve never asked any man to buy me luxury goods, nor has anyone ever bought them for me. Everything I own was either something I bought myself or something my parents gave me.
Is it normal for men to assume that if a university student has a luxury-brand item, a man must have bought it for her?
I’m Dai, a male member.
To be honest, I don’t really pay much attention to that sort of thing.
I have no interest in designer brands, so I wouldn’t know what I was looking at anyway.
Designer goods only have value because there are people like you who want them.
In other words, you’re the kind of person who gets exploited.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Men usually speak without thinking much at all. I can say that because I’ve had enjoyable conversations with hundreds of wealthy men through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and the nightlife industry. Even among wealthy men, hardly any of them speak while deeply considering things like, “I said this to this woman for this reason, because I hold this particular belief.”
I’m the type who thinks about the basis and reasoning behind every single thing I say, so I was stunned when I realized this. After that, I stopped letting what papas said hurt me deeply or trying to figure out the reasons behind their words. I learned to simply skim the surface and enjoy the happiness it offered. I realized that thinking too much about it was pointless.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I really don’t know what to make of it. They probably assume that anything expensive must be good. Maybe they just lack the perspective to judge whether something actually suits the person wearing it.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Maybe you simply don’t realize that it’s not unusual for college students to own high-end brands.
You may want to help struggling students who are having a hard time repaying their scholarships, or perhaps you have an ideal image of what a PJ should be. But some papas have also worked hard and built their current status from the ground up.
Being considerate of that and acting accordingly is part of your own social awareness.
It’s only natural for people to have different feelings and perspectives. If you can be mindful of those differences, you may find that you can let more things slide—and gain more from the relationship as well.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
You’re overthinking it.
He may have simply said it because he thought you had something nice.
If a student has a luxury-brand item, people will probably assume they either got it from their parents, do a lot of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or work part-time in the adult-entertainment or nightlife industry.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
A papa might think that way, but most people wouldn’t, since the idea of being a papa doesn’t normally cross their minds.
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