Reading posts here, I’m surprised that young women can feel jealous of their papas, want to have them all to themselves, or even fall for them… especially when these men are one or two decades older.
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Even with someone I’ve been seeing long-term, it’s only because I don’t find him physically off-putting and there’s nothing wrong with his personality. Even if my papa were a really great person or exactly my type, I still wouldn’t see him if I weren’t receiving an allowance, and I don’t want to get deeply involved.
For those of you who have special feelings for your papas, why are you so attached to them? There are plenty of more wonderful men your own age!
I’m Aya, a female member.
I have a boyfriend my age, but I pretend to be jealous to make my papa happy. Eventually, the act started to feel genuine, and now I’m not even sure how I really feel. But the more you make him believe you like him enough to get jealous, the higher the allowance goes, right…?
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I’m Shingo Lee, a column writer.
Lately, I feel like more young women don’t have much of an issue with older men. I was dating a woman in her teens, and apparently one of her friends was also romantically involved with a man over 40.
This is just my personal impression, but I think a lot of people need someone who can quietly fill the emotional void in their lives. For some, it’s simply nice to have that person; others needed someone but couldn’t find them.
When someone fits that role, the relationship can develop into something long-term—whether that person is a boyfriend, a friend with benefits, a papa, or something else entirely.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well.
> Why are you so attached to your papa? There are plenty of more attractive men your own age!
If you look at the outcome, I think it’s only natural to assume that she simply didn’t find any good men her own age.
Of course, I’m sure there are plenty of wonderful men regardless of age—but those attractive men her own age may have gone for older women instead.（笑）
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
My way of thinking is pretty much the same as the woman I’m seeing（笑）
There’s just one thing:
> Why are women so fixated on their papas? There are plenty of more attractive men their own age!
That question doesn’t quite apply in her case. She feels there aren’t any appealing men her own age, so she’s decided not to get a boyfriend.
Wait—does that mean I’m better than the men her age?（笑）
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
I’m surprised by how fixated you are on other people’s relationships.
Are you saying that while doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’re also dating someone wonderful around your own age? Is that what young people call being “living their best life”?
I’m not interested in that kind of thing, so I don’t really get it—and if possible, I’d rather not get involved.
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