After reading a question posted a little while ago, I realized that my favorite girl also tends to be popular with men around my age. Even when she’s with me, I can feel other men’s eyes on her. Do you all ever feel afraid that she might be taken by someone else at any moment?

I’m SHingo Lee, a columnist. I was also in an ambiguous relationship with an exceptionally cute 18-year-old girl for about two years. Even after introducing her to delicious food, teaching her enjoyable sex, and giving her stylish clothes, she remained a wonderful girl who saw McDonald’s as a small luxury, didn’t want to sleep with other men, and bought slightly more affordable clothes from GU or Mercari. She had a small face, long, slender legs, and a model-like figure. More than anything, she looked exactly like my ideal of a beautiful woman... I took my time teaching her how to achieve her dreams, how to live her life, and how to make money. As a result, she eventually left me. Even now, she’s the only girl I would want to spend the rest of my life with, but sadly, that dream won’t come true. No matter how much you care about someone, if they have zero feelings for you, it means nothing—zero multiplied by anything is still zero. All I can do is raise my own value while dreaming of the day we might happen to meet again. I need to build my reputation through work, improve my appearance, and make sure I’m fully prepared so I don’t miss a “once-in-a-lifetime” opportunity if it ever comes. Continuing to pine for her is nothing more than worthless idleness. These days, I think of her while enjoying time with other girls. My feelings for her are genuine, and so is the enjoyment I find in being with other girls. Let’s enjoy the many different sides of ourselves—and enjoy the effort we put into improving our lives.

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer as well. How to get through it I feel like all I can say is that time is the only thing that will heal it.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I understand the pain of heartbreak all too well, lol. But I can’t relate to any of the other feelings at all. I don’t have that kind of fear. If anything, I want to experience heartbreak to the fullest and really feel it with my entire being. Besides, when a relationship is built around money, I feel that breaking up is included in the package from the start. Even when things are going smoothly, I find myself anticipating the heartbreak, wondering, “What kind of goodbye will I have with this girl?” So instead of pursuing a peaceful, long-term relationship, I sometimes feel like deliberately creating some ups and downs. And doesn’t being tied to someone through money leave you feeling uneasy no matter what? A relationship where you pay money but don’t expect anything from the other person might feel a little less anxiety-inducing. But when you pay money and have expectations of them, the anxiety comes as part of the deal.

I’m Osaka, a male member. “One more time, One more chance,” as they say. Even though you shared a bond stronger than marriage, her suddenly disappearing does seem contradictory. Still, if the relationship lasted three years, I’d say you must have had a very good relationship. “I’m always looking for you, somewhere out there…” If she was an unforgettable, irreplaceable person you’ll never see again, then I think it’s fine to be completely devastated and cry your heart out. You can stay depressed for three years, or even for the rest of your life. That’s an option too, isn’t it? Romantic, maybe? The deeper your grief, the more deeply her presence comes through, I suppose. That said, there are times when this song really hits home and you think, “I totally get it,” but there are also times when it gets annoying. Sometimes I even feel embarrassed by how sentimental I’m being. If it lasted three years, couldn’t you just bring it to an end with a “thank you”? She has her own life, too, so why not smile and see her off as simply someone who passed through your life? You can bring it to a close in your heart as a good memory. I think you may be romanticizing it a little too much. People may say Osaka can’t understand these feelings, but I lost a woman I loved when I was young. She suddenly left this world, and I never even got to say goodbye, lol. But what’s the point of that story? I’m simply grateful to her for changing the way I see life, and now I’m here enjoying papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), lol. Isn’t it precisely because despair exists that we’re able to have hope?

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. > Do you ever feel afraid that you might be replaced by someone else at any moment? Not at all—I haven’t felt that way once in the past 20 years. I think confidence, composure, and a sense of ease are important. > I was also seeing other people at the same time. I think that was the problem. She probably sensed it and realized she was just one of several people you were seeing.

I’m Aya, a female member. I felt a little sad because it seems like my papa might be heading in that direction. Though maybe I’m just reading too much into it. At first, he was seeing multiple women, but over time I became the only one. He’s introduced me to his subordinates and acquaintances, and we’ve gone on lots of trips together. I’m staying at the Grand Hyatt with him today. After we argued over whether I had looked at the notifications on his phone, he said, “When you think about it, I should be grateful that a woman this much younger than me likes me so much. This’ll probably be the last time something like this happens in my life…” I’ve decided not to suddenly leave him after all.