I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a column writer.
You seem to be a woman. The girls men tend to like are those who are willing to be intimate with them. If you hold back too much or make it seem like you have high standards, they’ll cut you off.
As for reply timing, I think it’s best to match the time it takes them to respond after you message them. If they usually reply after a day or two, wait about a day before replying as well. If they respond immediately, reply right away.
That said, replying at exactly the same pace every time can feel predictable, so it’s good to vary it occasionally—for example, waiting a day or two sometimes and replying immediately at other times.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I think it depends on how much you like the other person.
If it’s a woman I really like, I’d be happy to hear from her often. And if she asked to meet, I might think she was running short on money—but I’d also start imagining things and feel flattered, thinking, “I must be pretty popular.”
With a woman I’m not that into, I wouldn’t necessarily mind hearing from her, but if she asked to meet, I’d wonder if she only saw me as an ATM whenever she ran low on money. In that case, I wouldn’t get carried away imagining anything. (笑)
Still, I think it’s fine to ask her out up to about twice a month. And if you feel she likes you, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking every week.
As for just staying in touch, I think most men like it when a woman reaches out to them.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think it depends on the man.
When I’ve had an adult relationship (intimate) with someone, I generally go along with whatever works for her.
With a B-type woman, before becoming intimate, I’ll contact her a few times—just enough so she doesn’t forget me, though…
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
> When she sends me several dates she’s supposedly available, but when I reply the next day, “Let’s do this date!” she says, “Sorry! Something suddenly came up that day.”
I don’t like girls who do that.
I prefer someone who sends me several available dates and is genuinely free and able to meet—whether I contact her right away, at the last minute, the day before, or even that morning. Of course, she should also be responsible about her work.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
More than just messaging back and forth, I appreciate it when someone sends me several of their available dates upfront—it makes me feel like I’m fairly high on their priority list.
On the other hand, I’m not great at being asked, “When are you free?”
That said, sometimes someone will send me several available dates, and when I reply the next day, “Let’s do this day!” they’ll say, “I’m sorry! Something suddenly came up that day.” It can leave me feeling a little awkward, haha.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve been seeing two women for over a year, and they’re complete opposites. I message one of them on LINE every day, while I only message the other when we’re making plans to meet.
Naturally, I feel more emotionally attached to the woman I’m in touch with every day. But if you ask me which one I like more, they each have their own appeal.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Rather than how often you stay in touch, I think what matters more is whether spending time with her helps you unwind—and whether the girl who does makes it easy to arrange a date. It’s about becoming the ultimate convenient woman for your papa.
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