I’ve been left alone at an internet café. I know I was foolish, but when I told a man I thought I could become close to about my past, he said I was scary and ran away.
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I ended up crying. My past includes doing something resembling prostitution when I was underage. I feel foolish for telling him, but his attitude changed completely, as if he had become a different person.
People are kind of scary, aren’t they?
Was he only after my body after all?
I want to live without trusting people either.
I’m Aya, a female member.
Men aren’t as strong or as emotionally capable as you might think. I’ve regretted opening up a few times myself—most of the time, you won’t get the reaction you’re hoping for, and even if you do, it may be nothing more than empty words. It may be difficult, but if you don’t expect too much, you won’t get hurt. You’ll be okay.
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Are “prostitution-like” and “almost a virgin” synonyms?
Sorry—I shouldn’t make light of a question from a woman who’s hurting.
To answer seriously, opening up may make the person talking feel better, but it can make things heavier and more painful for the person listening.
You shouldn’t casually bring up something you yourself consider an unpleasant part of your past.
Also, I don’t think it matters whether he was only after your body. If that had been his intention, hearing a story like that probably wouldn’t bother him much anyway. He might even see it as a plus, thinking you’d be easy to get intimate with.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Everyone has a past, and that past is what brings us to where we are today.
> In the past, when I was underage, I did something resembling prostitution.
> The man’s attitude changed completely, as if he had become a different person.
> I was left alone at an internet café.
The past can’t be changed. But you can learn from it and make a fresh start.
Once you’re an adult, an adult relationship (intimate) is naturally an option. But this time, you didn’t choose the man carefully enough. Let’s find a better man next time.
As for me, I’ve had to start over from scratch many times, and I’ve only just become a papa-katsu grandpa.
You’re probably still young, so there’s plenty of time ahead of you.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
Maybe it was a little too soon to talk about it—or maybe he just wasn’t the right person to tell.
I’ve also had the pathetic experience of hearing about a woman’s truly harrowing past, getting drawn in as I imagined what she’d been through and put myself in her shoes, and then being comforted by the very person whose story had left me emotionally wrecked.
That man was probably shocked too, and it may have been more than he could handle.
Some people talk about their painful pasts in a cheerful way, but that can make things feel even heavier, so it’s difficult.
Maybe he had a past just as harrowing as yours, and simply wanted to spend a fun time with you. Perhaps you could look at it that way and focus on cherishing the time you create together.
I believe the time will come when you meet someone who can truly accept you.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m not entirely sure I understand, but if hearing about her past scared him, was he young?
I’ve had a similar experience, but the past is the past, so it didn’t bother me.
If he was only after her body, then regardless of her past, it seems like being able to have sex should have been all that mattered to him.
Life is full of all kinds of things, but in this case, I think it simply means that man was narrow-minded.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer as well.
First of all, I’m not really sure why you went to an internet café, or what kind of person you told about it.
I can understand why a man who has never given a woman an allowance might be surprised, though.
But if you went to the internet café with an allowance already agreed upon, then the man’s behavior is hard to understand.
This time, you just happened to encounter a man who wasn’t a good person.
Normally, hearing something like that wouldn’t bother someone, and it might even help you become closer.
That said, I don’t think you should talk about it too much until you’ve developed a more intimate relationship. You should also get better at judging men.
There are plenty of better men out there, so you really shouldn’t stay depressed.
Your next papa might turn out to be an amazing man.
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