I’m Osaka, a male member.
I get the feeling that what they’re really asking for is someone who won’t hurt them.
“Not hurting someone” can mean a lot of things: not lying, not betraying them, not constantly asking for more, not seeing other people (so they feel secure that they’re the only one), not rejecting them, etc. If I keep going, I’ll get carried away, so I’ll stop there, lol.
On the other hand, PJs sometimes ask me right from their initial offer, “Would you date only me?” They’ll say things like, “I may not look it, but I’m actually very serious.” And when I reply, “Wait, I’m married, so that’s impossible from the start,” they say, “That’s the one exception,” lol.
I suppose what they mean is that they don’t want to get hurt. But being added to a list of people dating someone who sees multiple partners could be hurtful too, I imagine. As for me, there are things you only learn after you start seeing someone, so I don’t think I can make a commitment before anything has even begun.
Maybe they simply don’t like being ranked as a backup or an ace, or participating in—or being forced to participate in—a race created by that man?
Of course, once you start dating someone, it’s more exciting if you’re their number one. I can understand that.
Saying, “I’m only seeing you,” even when it isn’t true, may be something people say after picking up on and taking into account those feelings. I think “pure and innocent” probably includes people who genuinely aren’t lying when they say it.
Men probably don’t want to participate in, or be forced into, a race on the women’s side either. And since there are so many lies involved in the first place, perhaps the suggestion to date multiple people and spread out the risk comes from not wanting to get hurt or depressed.
Sometimes I think the root motivation is the same. (Of course, there are also people who are all about “party all night and hook up!” lol.)
Money and time are limited, so I tried dating multiple people to spread out the risk. But in the end, only one relationship remained enjoyable enough to continue, so that’s where I am now, lol.
I’m sure it would hit me hard if the relationship ended or I discovered that she had lied to me. But when that happens, I suppose I’ll just have to be prepared to let myself feel completely miserable.
I don’t plan to make a point of telling her that she’s the only one I’m seeing. That would feel pretty uncool.
Everyone, please comfort me when I get hurt, okay? (T_T)
It’s free to expect someone else to accommodate your own ego, but they have their own ego too. I think a relationship can continue if the two sides are able to negotiate a good trade-off. To keep things enjoyable, we probably need to face our own weaknesses as well.
I’m Dai, a male member.
What you’re calling “pure and innocent” sounds more like someone sheltered and inexperienced with the world.
It may not be exactly the same as being pure and innocent, but I’d describe her as the kind of woman who normally wouldn’t join a dating club.
There are women like that at these clubs, too. They tend to leave soon after registering, though, so they’re hard to find…
And one thing’s for sure: they wouldn’t look down on someone who gives them an allowance by saying things like, “I’m a loser who can’t attract women.”
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Pure and innocent…
You might have found someone like that in the Meiji or Taisho era, but today she’d probably be around 100 years old…
If you’re looking for someone young, wouldn’t a professional papa-katsu woman be more suitable?
Please let yourself be fooled—in a good way (⌒▽⌒)
I’m Aya, a female member.
“I’m looking for a girl who’ll fall for an unpopular guy like me at first sight and let me be intimate with her for free.”
I think a more polished way to put that would be:
“I’m looking for someone who wants a long-term, one-on-one relationship.”
That’s also exactly the type of papa I prefer, so I feel like the supply and demand match perfectly. My personal ideal is to let an innocent papa dream big, and before he knows it, I’m receiving an allowance too.
I’m Taro, a male member.
I don’t think it’s particularly strange—it’s actually pretty common. You could even call it a classic genre. Try searching for “pure and innocent AV actress” and you’ll see what I mean.
Some people probably enjoy them through illegal free-video sites, but I think the hardcore fans spend quite a bit of money. There seem to be a lot of events and things like that, too.
If you think about it rationally, it doesn’t make much sense, but hobbies and preferences aren’t governed by logic.
Getting angry about something like this is childish. I think being able to laugh at this sort of thing is what makes someone an adult—and being able to control it is what makes someone a pro.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I completely understand feeling like they’re an idiot, but if you want to say something here in response to the question, at least post it as an answer.
Your post is basically a freebie hit-and-run too.
