https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/8728

I’m the person who posted this question. Thank you all for your answers. When we get to the point of discussing the terms toward the end of the meal, I always tell them that I want them to use a condom. Some people even get angry about that. There are the bareback guys, of course, but there are also the “condom guys.” Even if they say, “Why would I ever not use a condom?!” I’m still left thinking, “Well…” A thick-skinned woman like me won’t be mentally shaken by it, but I think there are probably plenty of gentle, sensitive, easygoing women—the type many of you seem to prefer—who get intimidated and can’t bring it up beforehand next time. I worry that some of them go to a hotel without being able to say anything and end up in a dangerous situation. That’s why I think it’s important to understand that you can still end things during the meal. The person who yells or lectures is the one at fault, and shouldn’t there be a system that makes it clear the woman who speaks up has done nothing wrong? Some men may say women should be able to figure it out from the conversation during the meal, but are you actually giving them enough hints to do so? Aren’t you putting on a gentlemanly act you don’t really mean because you intend to take things toward an adult relationship (intimate) afterward? There are plenty of suspicious men around here. Of course, none of you respondents have had complaints made against you, so I’m sure that doesn’t apply to you. It’s naturally important to protect yourself. However, I think the club needs to show—even if that isn’t its true feeling—that men who belittle women in such situations are not welcome there. Women are members too. Mac, I don’t think many women can react that decisively when they’re alone with a man in a closed room, dealing with someone whose thought process they can’t understand. You probably won’t understand that, though. It’s the same as groping or sexual harassment. The person being subjected to it isn’t at fault for not asking for help; the person forcing it on them is at fault. Of course, as far as your relationship with Mac is concerned, I understand that it was consensual between both parties, so I don’t think there’s a problem.