Have you ever received gifts besides your allowance?

When it comes to gifts, people who are good at it always give them naturally, while those who aren’t usually don’t give anything at all. Try giving him something first. If he still doesn’t ask what you’d like for Christmas or your birthday, he probably has no intention of giving you anything. A wonderful man I recently met asked me today when my birthday was, but unfortunately, mine was in the spring. I couldn’t help wondering if something might have happened if it had been coming up soon—but that’ll be our little secret. Marika

I’m Aya, one of the female members. I also live in my papa’s apartment, but he hasn’t bought me that many things. That said, he surprised me with a watch for my birthday last year, and I was really happy. I hadn’t asked for it, so I’m perfectly fine if he doesn’t give me anything. In our everyday communication, I can tell that he respects me as a woman. So even if the relationship continues for a long time, some men simply aren’t good at giving presents, and I think you just have to wait naturally. As for affection, you can only really feel it through your day-to-day communication. That said, if you’re genuinely being treated carelessly, I think it’s okay to take some kind of action.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. > I’ve never received any gifts besides my allowance. How many gifts have you given your papa (a male supporter)? Basically, it seems that the allowance is also meant to cover gifts, so if your allowance hasn’t been reduced, I don’t think it’s necessarily a problem even if he doesn’t give you presents. If you’d like to receive gifts, maybe try giving him plenty of presents yourself. He may eventually take the hint and start buying you gifts, too. If he still doesn’t notice, you could gently say something like: “I’d like a present, too.” He might not appreciate directly asking for a specific item, like “I want ○○,” but simply saying you’d like a gift should be fine.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’ve given gifts in addition to the allowance before. Giving presents is a matter of personal habit, so it doesn’t necessarily mean whether a man likes or is fond of a woman. If it really bothers you, why not try giving your papa (a male supporter) something for his birthday? Can’t you tell that he likes you from the fact that he’s arranged an apartment for you and that your allowance arrangement has continued for a year?

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Exactly. Once money and sex enter the picture, it becomes harder to see whether there’s any genuine affection as people. That’s the downside of the pros and cons. It can’t be helped—that’s just how it is. More importantly, be grateful for the ordinary things right in front of you. P.S. Sorry, you were talking about gifts. Birthday gifts are a must, and I give them various other times when there’s an occasion. But I don’t give them because we’re close. And I’m not keeping anyone in a condo, either. Also, about questions like this—can everyone please stop opening with “we’re pretty close”? Usually, the flow is “we’re pretty close” → “but I have a problem.” Grammatically, that doesn’t really add up, so it’s hard to understand, lol. “You don’t know what they’re thinking? Then you’re not close at all! Not even remotely. You’re absolutely not close. To put it bluntly.” Conversely, even if you sometimes argue or grow distant, being able to understand what the other person is thinking and always make up afterward—that’s what I’d call being close. You have to talk things through from the depths of your character, clash repeatedly, go through plenty of good times and bad, and still choose to stay together. Only then can you maybe start thinking, “I guess we’re pretty close after all?” So I don’t have a single “close female companion.” Nor should I. They might think we’re close, but unfortunately, that’s a huge misunderstanding. I’m the one giving them that impression, so I’m at fault, lol. If someone told me, “I want us to become closer,” I’d want to say, “Seriously? Are you prepared to accept all of me? I’m actually a pretty high-maintenance person, and I can be a lot to handle, you know? lol” Thanks for reading.