● Does seeing him twice a month mean I can’t become his main partner?

I’m columnist Fuu. The fact that you’re happy just spending time together means you must be a wonderful person. Your papa is lucky. Making him your main partner might feel like too much, so perhaps it’s best to simply stay close and maintain a good relationship. Since the frequency of your meetings also depends on your papa’s energy and availability, go along with what he wants. You could try saying, “I’d like to see you tomorrow,” even if you don’t expect him to agree. If he accepts, and seems happy when you’re together, you’re probably fine. If your papa is busy with work, though, being too persistent might annoy him, so pay attention to his reactions. As for keeping things fresh, if it were me, I’d make small changes when we’re in a room together. I wouldn’t come on too strong all at once, but I might wear especially cute or slightly sexy lingerie, suggest taking a bath together, give him a hug as soon as we enter the room, or sit right next to him and snuggle up when we sit down. Things like that.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. In my case, I’m seeing one person. We’ve been dating for three years, meeting twice a month since we started. You could call her my main partner, but if you ask whether there’s a second partner, there isn’t one. These days, she says it without even feeling embarrassed: “I’m exclusively Date◎Yume’s type.” And I say it too: “She’s my type as well.” We’re both old enough to know better, yet we say things like that to each other without hesitation（笑） I’m pretty busy too, so twice a month works well for us. That said, she also expects financial support, so although it’s pay-per-meeting, I guarantee her a monthly amount no matter what. Things have been going well lately（笑） She always invites me to meet, and she even says, with a perfectly straight face, “I feel better physically when I’m intimate with you, Date-san” （笑） After reading your question, I thought it might be nice for you to look forward to your next meeting and let that give you energy in your daily life.

I’m Dai, a male member. I’m guessing you’re a woman? I’m busy with work myself, and I don’t have unlimited energy, so I only have room to meet someone two or three times a month to begin with. That’s why I only see each woman once a month at most. I wonder if I’ll ever meet someone I become so invested in that I’d want to see her twice a month. So far, no one like that has come along. By the way, I’m honestly happy when someone invites me even if they think I might say no. Whether I can actually meet them is another matter, though…

I’m Kazu, a male member. > If we only meet twice a month, can I still be his primary partner? Even if you don’t meet often, I think you can still be his primary partner as long as you have the best relationship with him. > Would a man be happy if I asked him, even as a long shot, “Are you suddenly free tomorrow?” on a day other than our scheduled meeting? It should be fine as long as he understands that you’re just asking on the off chance. I also think the frequency and timing matter. If you’re always asking on short notice, he might start to find it burdensome. > Do you have any advice on keeping things fresh even if we meet at short intervals? I think it’s important not to simply repeat the same routine. Have new topics to talk about, let the relationship develop in some way, and introduce occasional changes.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. > ● If we meet twice a month, can I not become his main partner? I think most men would be able to meet their main partner six, eight, or even more times a month. There can be many reasons they don’t meet that often: perhaps they aren’t that interested, or aren’t being liked enough; they may get bored or worry about being cut off; or they may want to enjoy spending time with different women in a balanced way. Also, twice a month is probably the easiest frequency to maintain over the long term. It allows the relationship to continue without either person getting bored or cutting the other off, while also preventing them from forgetting each other. I think it can help prevent the relationship from naturally fading away as well. > ● Would a man be happy if I asked him, even on short notice, “Are you free tomorrow?” on a day other than our scheduled meeting? If it’s someone I’m close to, I’d be more than happy. On the other hand, if she isn’t my main partner, I might be pleased if the timing works—but otherwise, it could be a major inconvenience. > ● Do you have any advice for keeping things fresh even when meeting at short intervals? I can only say that it depends on your compatibility with the man. If meeting frequently—several times a week—brings out a woman’s true self, the man will likely become captivated by the richness and variety of what she says, as well as the wide range of emotions reflected in her expressions. After going through that process, an adult relationship (intimate) built on deepening trust can become a bond that neither person wants to let go of.