I’d like to see my papa four times a month, but because of his schedule, it’s sometimes four times and sometimes three. The inconsistency is making me feel emotionally unsettled. I want peace of mind and more emotional breathing room, so would it be more realistic to suggest a stable four-times-a-month arrangement to him (and if so, how should I bring it up), or should I register again to look for another papa (a male supporter)? Which option do you think is more realistically feasible?

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too. > Should I register again to look for another papa? I think that would be a good idea. Your current papa probably has his own pace as well. He may want to meet you but be tied up with work. With that in mind, I think it’s best to let your current papa set the pace. And having around three papas seems beneficial in various ways. I think finding about two more papas would be a good balance.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Don’t be too pushy. And don’t rely on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for your entire livelihood. I’m the same way, but papas are pretty busy too. If you suggest how much you need each month and arrange for a monthly allowance—even if it’s paid per meeting—it’ll give you peace of mind. I like modest women who don’t spread themselves around to other men.

I’m Taro, a male member. Isn’t it that the number of meetings changes to three or four depending on your period? From the man’s perspective, he probably wants to see you three or four times a month—basically every week. It sounds like he likes you quite a bit, so if money is the issue, you could tell him you’d feel more secure if you met four times a month. If you’re discussing the monthly total based on the number of meetings rather than the rate per meeting, he may feel less resistant. Since he seems to want to see you every week anyway, he might actually be happy about it. Ideally, you could agree on meeting four times a month and then discuss what to do about that fourth meeting. I agree with the idea that, if your goal is money, it’s better to have multiple papas. Even if one engine breaks down, you can keep flying. Safer with two engines than one, and safer still with four—that’s the idea behind having four papas you each see once a month. From a man’s perspective, there really are women he’s happy to see once every two weeks, or even just once a month. There’s also something to the idea that meeting only once a month creates enough distance to make the arrangement last longer. Of course, once a man finds his main partner, all the others may be dropped, but finding that person isn’t easy, so in the end, it can work surprisingly well. (lol) By the way, a “main partner” is a woman he wants to see every week. In that sense, I think you’re probably in the main-partner category. You’re probably close enough that he could reach you with just a little effort. If your feelings are mutual, it should be easy—but if they aren’t, it may be difficult. It’s a distance that feels close yet far away. Good luck.

I’m Aya, a female member. I think it’s fine to say something like, “I’d love to see you more often♡,” but ideally, the frequency would increase naturally, right? If you ask to meet more often when you’re not that close with your papa (a male supporter), it can come across as if you’re only after the money. So I think it might be best to find another papa for a monthly arrangement.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If you’re looking for a transactional relationship, tell him, “It would really help me if I could receive ___ yen a month.” Since it sounds like she’d prefer to stay with her current papa (a male supporter) if possible, try to increase how often you meet if you’re on good terms. (It’s probably better not to say outright, “I want this much per month.”) Instead, say things like, “I want to see you,” “I’d like to see you on these three days,” or “I’m free next week on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday.” You can also ask regularly, “Can you meet today?” “What are you doing today?” or “I’m free tomorrow.” If you still can’t meet at least four times a month, start looking for a new papa (a male supporter) as well.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I prefer it when women simply say, “I’d like to receive ○○ a month, so I’d like you to meet with me ○ times,” and that’s actually how I’m usually approached. I don’t like playing complicated games.

I’m Dai, a male member. I believe it’s best to respect your papa’s pace. If the financial support isn’t enough, it would be more realistic to look for another papa.