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Sep 18, 2021 18:57
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🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
This is something I can relate to.
Kyoichiro Kaga’s father wasn’t able to be with his wife as she was dying. He regretted it and felt guilty about it for a long time. So, as I recall, he made his son, Kyoichiro Kaga, promise never to come see him when he was dying—and then died without seeing his son.
Using the same logic, I’m an awful person who lies constantly to my family. If I don’t lie even more to people outside my family, I feel like I’m betraying them. It just doesn’t add up in my head.
So I lie to the women I date without batting an eye.
It’s the same logic, isn’t it? lol
If you dig into why I lied, maybe there’s some deeper reason behind it. lol
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
I think it would be best to break things off.
Forget him completely, look for someone new, or quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) altogether and give yourself a fresh start.
If you feel like doing papa-katsu again afterward, you can. Or you may decide not to do anything at all.
For now, focus on healing your emotional wounds.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
While hugging him on his lap, try cutely pouting and asking, “Why?” Then, depending on his reaction, decide whether to say goodbye or get even more affectionate.
It’s okay to cry. If you’re going to part ways anyway, take a chance and give it a try.
But if he’s a generous papa (well-paying), act as though nothing happened. That’s when you need to be an actress.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think you should judge them based on how seriously the male member approaches his relationship with you.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That’s seriously shocking, isn’t it? What hurts is realizing that the papa you trusted was actually the kind of person who could lie so casually—and that you feel like he was taking you for granted, right…?
Sneaking off to see other girls makes him seem like he can’t control his desires, and it makes a papa like that feel really disgusting.
If it were me, I’d tell him exactly how I felt, but I probably wouldn’t break things off. If he’s giving you a generous allowance, there’s nothing wrong with continuing to smile and be nice to him, is there? Once your feelings have cooled, you might even be able to calmly play the type of woman he likes.
Then, once you’ve made him like you even more, you could suddenly block and delete him without a word. He might never be able to forget you that way.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, and my handle is Paper Airplane.
Choosing to end things is certainly an option.
Another point is that, given the nature of a club, both men and women need to make the other person feel comfortable. So the fact that he had made you believe that he “wasn’t seeing any other women and had even left the club because his membership had expired” could, in a sense, be seen as him fulfilling his role as well. He wasn’t able to keep that up, which is a shortcoming, but I think his effort and intentions are still worth acknowledging.
You could also decide based on whether you feel he’s likely to continue treating you as someone important.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
It was a mistake to expect someone to be devoted when meeting through a dating club in the first place.
Once the feelings are gone, all you can do is part ways—but please don’t expect the next man to be any different.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Why not talk it over with him and then decide whether you want to break up?