I can’t look my papa (a male supporter) in the eye when I talk to him! Actually, I’ve always had trouble making eye contact with people—I’m socially awkward.
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So I usually talk while looking slightly downward.
Do men find women like this creepy? …When I watch other people, I do think those who look you in the eye while talking are attractive after all… *sobs*
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
For papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think it’s easier to talk if you request a side-by-side counter seat—like at a teppanyaki restaurant—or another place with side-by-side seating.
There’s a saying in the pickup world: “For a date, sit side by side.”
That’s because even though you’re physically close, there’s no pressure from having to maintain eye contact, which makes it easier to relax and open up.
However, eye contact says more than words ever can.
People who are good at persuasion are good with eye contact. Sorry to bring up pickup again, but people often say that if you want to be popular, you should “polish your nonverbal communication.”
Your gaze, facial expressions, hand gestures, and tone of voice.
In fact, human communication relies on these nonverbal cues more than on words.
Start by looking at the other person’s nose rather than directly into their eyes, and get used to moving your gaze naturally.
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I’m BB7.
I think it helps to sit side by side while talking. You could also sit at an angle instead of directly facing each other.
Even if you look around the other person’s nose, it will seem like you’re making eye contact.
It might help to practice with a photo, a life-size poster, or a mannequin of some old guy placed in front of you.
Either way, you’ll get used to it with practice.
Being stared at too intensely can be intimidating, so a moderate level of awkwardness is nothing to worry about.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
There’s a papa (male supporter) who actually came to like me because I couldn’t look him in the eye when we talked. Seriously. Apparently, he likes girls who are a little unusual.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
If you can’t look a man in the eyes, look at his nose instead.
You can still read his expressions, and you might even be able to tell if he’s lying.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s not off-putting.
I just think, “He must have trouble communicating.”
I feel like we’re often able to talk normally after having sex.
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I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Everyone has different tastes, so there are probably people who like women like that.
Being slightly downcast can be attractive in its own way.
If you prefer someone who looks you in the eye when she talks, you can work on changing that. But if it’s difficult, I think you should look for someone who will like you just the way you are.
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