What kind of approach do you all take to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?

I’m Dai, a male member. I’d say I’m a 2. Honestly, I’d prefer option 1. I’d be really happy to build a relationship where we could go out and enjoy things together—not just have sex—but so far, I haven’t found a woman I can develop that kind of connection with. Lately, I’ve been thinking about making an offer to women who share my interests, even if they’re not exactly my type looks-wise.

It’s me. “I don’t think two intimate encounters are worth enough to buy an iPhone.” Even if an iPhone has value, I’m perfectly satisfied if I can replace it once every two years. A wonderful woman won’t get bored even if we go on a date once a week. …That way of thinking is valid too, right? The allowance is fine as long as both people share the same values. It won’t last if either person is forcing themselves. My stance on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is whether we can both offer each other something worth more than the money involved. Money and intimacy are important, but we also make a list and share the places we’d both like to visit, things we’d like to experience, and people we’d like to meet. When we run out of date ideas, we just work our way down the list. Before we knew it, we’d gained things through papa-katsu with Universe that money and intimacy alone could never provide. I’m talking with the person I’m currently seeing about how nice it would be to have that kind of relationship. There can be 100 different approaches for 100 different couples. I hope you both find the arrangement that feels best for you.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Both 1 and 2. Since it depends on the other person, it may end up being 1, or I may decide to keep it at 2. > I don’t think two sexual encounters are worth enough to buy an iPhone. The Industrial Revolution truly was remarkable. I’d be curious to know whether five encounters would make it worth the price of an iPhone.

I’m a male member—basically a loser. What exactly was the membership report again? If I had to put my goal into the terms of the membership questionnaire, it would be “1. Finding a partner I can give my affection to.” Basically, I make offers to Type B women. If I really like someone, I may make an exception and offer to a Type C woman, but even with Type C women, I usually don’t invite them to an adult relationship on the first day. So I ask the club to let them know in advance that “I won’t be inviting you to an adult relationship on the first date.” I’d feel bad if they came expecting an allowance for an adult relationship on the first day. *I occasionally make offers to Type A women as well. 1. Meet for dinner and see whether we can respect each other as people 2. Meet another day and try an adult date 3. Go on a few more dinner and adult dates 4. Decide whether to make it a fixed monthly arrangement or keep it pay-per-meeting That’s generally how I do things. I don’t last long with women who only want adult dates because they’re after the allowance, but with women I genuinely want to cherish, I give them the same amount whether we’re having dinner or going on an adult date. Whether things end as a pay-per-meeting relationship or become close enough for me to offer a fixed arrangement depends on the woman. If I enjoy spending time with her both over dinner and on adult dates, I’ll consider moving on to a fixed arrangement. As Kamihikoki said, it’s true that I’m only interested in things money can’t buy. In my case, I’m the incredibly creepy type who places tremendous importance on whether she sees me as a man. (汗) Twice in the past month, women have told me they didn’t need an allowance, so I feel like maybe I’m not quite that creepy—but I’m sure I probably am.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Whether we met through a club or not, when it comes to a woman I expect to stay connected with for life, we often find ourselves saying things like, “I can’t live without you,” and acknowledging each other as “partners.” At that point, I start wondering, “What is this supposed to be?” I don’t think we’ll ever part ways, but whether it’s pay-per-meeting or monthly, the amount is less than half of what it used to be. So I’ve been thinking that if I’m still around in 15 years, I’d like to increase the allowance by then (or maybe I’ll have to?). But if things continue that long, she may well say she’s had more than enough already. Questioner, you probably shouldn’t set your sights too high either. Especially between a man and a woman, I think things other than money are important too. In particular, a man who could become a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter) probably isn’t interested in obtaining things through the power of money, because he knows there’s nothing in this world that money can’t buy. If you don’t understand that, you may end up sending the opposite message. What interests him are things money can’t buy. (Like Mr. Shinbo talking about sailing around the world on today’s Wide na Show… Has he grown tired of life on land?)