I think I may have an STI, and I’m unsure how to tell the girl living in my apartment. She was the only one I had an unprotected arrangement with.
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I normally used condoms with the other girls, but in a moment of weakness, I took one off.
I’m hesitant because I have a feeling she’ll move out if I tell her. What should I do?
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Be honest with her, and apologize—sincerely and repeatedly.
If she still decides to leave, there’s nothing you can do.
But considering her medical expenses and the emotional shock she’s likely experiencing, ask if there’s anything she wants and buy it for her, even if it’s somewhat expensive.
Even if you do, she may still leave.
So I’d like you to approach it with genuine remorse—as an apology and a way of showing how sorry you are.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If the woman really kept her promise to be intimate without protection only with you, then this would be a huge betrayal.
You’ve left her with the trauma that men are liars.
She’ll almost certainly leave you, but telling her honestly is the least you can do for a woman who has been seeing you up until now.
Cover her medical expenses until she’s fully recovered, and at least say goodbye like a gentleman.
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I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
The wording “I think I may have an STD” makes it sound like you haven’t been to the doctor yet. Start by going to the hospital yourself.
Then, have your partner get a full panel of tests as soon as possible. I only have friends-with-benefits, so I’d explain it to them directly and ask them to get tested.
If you really want to phrase it indirectly, you could say: “I developed bacterial balanitis and am being treated for it. I don’t think it’s transmissible to women, but it may make me more susceptible to other STDs, so could you get a full STD screening?”
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I’m Aya, a female member.
STIs really are widespread… It’s scary. Why would anyone sleep with so many people without protection? They must have given in to their desires. All you can do is tell them promptly, take them to a doctor, and apologize profusely.
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This is Ayase Nana ♡
Rather than worrying about apologizing, have you gotten medication or an IV drip yet?
Seriously, no more unprotected sex… Why not stick to just one person? What would you do if it were an STD, HIV, or hepatitis B or C? You could die—are you really okay?
Also, please tell the girl you’re letting live in that apartment as soon as possible. Since she has a free place to stay, she’s not going to move out suddenly.
If you don’t act quickly, she could pass it on to another papa through unprotected sex, and then that papa could pass it on to other women… It’s too scary for me to accept any new offers.
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