I’m a single male member in my 50s, and I’ve been with UC for about two years. I’ve had some unpleasant experiences since joining, but overall I’ve been enjoying myself despite the circumstances in the world, and I’m grateful to UC. I’ve also learned a lot from the honest comments posted by the people answering questions here. I’ve never been married and don’t have much romantic experience, but I joined UC and this is where I am now. At the same time, I do have a desire to get married someday, although I understand the chances are probably low. My current activities on UC are incredibly enjoyable—I can meet wonderful women by making offers and enter into relationships with them—but, to be honest, I can’t really imagine what my life will look like when I turn 60.

Maezawa from the president’s office here, and I’ll answer this as well. Something I occasionally hear from women with Dating Type B is: “It seems like he’s gotten the wrong idea. It sounds like he’s looking for someone to marry…” Because she’s Type B, the first date will probably be dinner only, with conversation being the main focus. I think some men end up talking at length about the kind of woman they’d like to date. However, even women who are Type B register because they’re looking for a relationship where they receive an allowance. They aren’t looking for a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship or a marriage partner. That said, some women do hope they might meet someone special, so it’s possible they could happen to find a marriage partner. But I think you should consider that extremely rare. So, if you’re looking for someone to marry, you’d be better off registering with a marriage agency. If you want to hope for that rare possibility, I think it’s better not to make it your main focus. First establish a proper financial arrangement, then quietly keep that “rare” possibility in the back of your mind. If you can’t imagine yourself still using a dating club at 60, I think it’s because you haven’t yet let go of the hope that you might be able to get married through one. Instead, try changing your perspective. Even if you don’t get married, you can still be happy as long as you’re dating women you meet here. Whether you’re 60, 70, or 80, you can keep enjoying yourself with women. If you happen to be one of the lucky few, you may even have that kind of encounter.

I’m Dai, a male member. If you want to get married, I think you’d be better off registering with a matchmaking agency. I know a couple of people in their 40s and 50s who seem to be settling down and getting married. If you have enough disposable income to enjoy papa-katsu, you might be able to find someone as long as you’re not specifically looking for someone in their 20s. I’ve been married before, but I decided that was enough for me, so I’m enjoying my freedom now. I haven’t set any particular deadline.

I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist. As for whether there’s a future here, I’d say the odds aren’t great. The possibility isn’t zero, but since marriage isn’t the underlying premise, I think you’d be better off going to a marriage agency for high-achieving clients. I write columns and come from the pickup-artist scene, but even now, high-status men in their 50s are dating women in their 20s and 30s. People with little romantic experience tend to invest very little in their appearance and rarely put themselves in situations where they can meet others. - Rethink your grooming and style → Move beyond simply being “nice” and “clean-cut”; aim for a more masculine, rugged look. - Work on your body → Build muscle so you don’t look your age. - Register with a marriage agency → Take action sooner rather than later. It’s important to understand what the market is looking for. - Go to places where you can meet women, such as a shared-seating bar, and get more comfortable around women → In most cases, women turn men down after a first meeting because they’re boring or can’t keep a conversation going. Look up Chuando Tan. You’ll find a muscular 54-year-old man. Someone like that can still have plenty of romantic opportunities. As for Miharuharu, who’s the same age… if he were single, it would probably be pretty difficult for him. A lot of women advise men to focus on looking clean and well-groomed, but the men who are actually popular tend to be masculine, even if they look a little rough around the edges. Start by taking action!

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. If you want to get married, shouldn’t you focus on making that happen first, rather than chasing the dream world of Universe? Marriage—spending your life with the person you love most—can be wonderful. Even though my wife kicks me around from time to time, I still found myself admiring her in her apron this morning. Before leaving, I hugged her in the kitchen, thinking, “We’re like newlyweds again,” though I didn’t say it out loud. Given your age and the fact that you’re still single, perhaps you’re not the type to stay in a long-term relationship with a woman. I think people fall into two categories: those who stay with someone for the long haul, and those whose relationships eventually end and who are then drawn to their next spark of excitement. As for me, I’ve remained romantically involved with everyone I’ve once married or become engaged to, even after divorce or calling off the engagement—probably until the day I lose my faculties. We may not be able to continue living together as a married couple, but there are relationships that can continue precisely because we’re no longer married. That’s why I’ve also been fortunate enough to meet women from the club with whom I expect to remain connected even after our papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangements end, and I’ve enjoyed the benefits of Universe to the fullest. At this point, I doubt I could offer anything to a woman who would be better than them. Recently, even outside the club, I met a woman who compliments our physical chemistry—there’s no allowance or anything involved—and I’ve been savoring these blissful days. I expect both this relationship and my relationships with the club women to continue for a long time. Because I find happiness in staying with someone long-term, these relationships continue naturally: neither of us feels burdened, we can both be at ease, and we can say anything to each other. As for you, the questioner: If you look back on your past experiences, I think you’ll begin to see what you want, what makes you happy, and what brings you fulfillment. So I hope you can move forward naturally, without rushing or putting pressure on yourself. As for marriage— There’s a saying that marriage is the graveyard of life. Some people genuinely feel that way, while others see marriage as the greatest happiness of all. I hope you find a way of living that feels true to you and brings you happiness.

My relative got married at 53 and welcomed a baby this year. When he’s 60, he’ll be the father of a seven-year-old. Marika