I met a papa (a male supporter) for the first time last week, and things progressed to an adult relationship (intimate).
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He seemed very satisfied afterward and said, “I look forward to seeing you again!” We even set a date for our next meeting.
I sent him a thank-you message on LINE that day, but we haven’t exchanged any messages since. This morning, I messaged him to confirm our next plans and wished him luck at work.
But even though I sent it in the morning, it was already evening and he still hadn’t even read it… (;_;)
I’ve only been a member for about a month, and I was so excited to finally meet a wonderful man. Now I’m feeling down, wondering if I was just getting carried away and imagining things…
I’m Aya, a female member.
If you’ve already set a date for your next meeting, why not send a LINE message about a week beforehand to confirm whether next week is still on as planned, even if you’re feeling uneasy about it?
If he ignores that for around three days as well, I think it’s best to move on.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
When it comes to communication on LINE and similar apps, I think everyone has their own style and pace. Some people prefer about one exchange a day, while others may go several days without messaging but chat frequently when they do. Everyone has their own rhythm, so it’s important to figure that out during the early stages of seeing each other.
That said, until you become closer and build a certain level of trust, it’s probably best to make a conscious effort to stay in touch. I feel things are more stable if you can keep communicating every two or three days until you’ve met around three times.
From the man’s perspective, for example, even if you’re seeing someone on Type B and have already agreed on the terms for an adult relationship at your next meeting, if that meeting is two weeks away and communication is sparse in the meantime, you’ll most likely lose the connection.
Trust develops gradually. Once you’ve been seeing each other for a while, the relationship may remain intact even after being out of touch for several months, and you may reach a point where you know you can always meet whenever you get back in touch. But in any case, I think it’s best to be attentive during the first three meetings and the first three months.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
You’re asking how long I can put up with being left on read on LINE, right?
Honestly, I can endure it for six months or even a year. Of course being ignored hurts. I’ll write a message, then hesitate with my finger trembling over the send button.
But after going through the despair of having follow-up messages ignored too, and being blocked while they remain unread, time and time again, I’ve trained myself to simply endure without sending follow-up messages.
If there’s no reply for just one day, whether the message is unread or read, I don’t mind at all. In your case, it’s only when the day before our next date arrives that I start thinking, “Wait, did they die?” I’m more concerned about whether they’re alive than about being ignored. Ignoring someone after setting a date isn’t something a living person would do.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
On a first date, women usually send me a thank-you message within a few minutes—or at most 20 or 30 minutes—after we part, and I reply within 30 minutes to an hour. I even respond to women I don’t plan to see again.
Occasionally, I realize several hours later that I missed a message and reply late, but that’s usually only when I wasn’t particularly interested in her.
If the first date was enjoyable, she’ll probably check LINE fairly quickly. Unless there’s some unusual circumstance, like her phone breaking or being left behind, it may be best to give up.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
If you’ve already set a date for your next meeting, I don’t think you need to worry even if he hasn’t read your message yet.
He’s probably just busy.
That said, I understand feeling anxious about whether you’ll actually be able to meet next time. You could send something the morning before:
“Are we still on for tomorrow as planned?”
If he replies, you can take that as confirmation that the date is on.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Give it a day or two. Everyone uses LINE differently, and people have different ways of interacting with women, so I think it’s best not to get too caught up in every little thing.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Since you’ve already made plans to meet again, I think it’s okay to wait a little longer.
When you’re still getting to know someone, it’s natural to feel anxious if your message remains unread for a long time.
As time goes by, you’ll get a better sense of your partner’s pace, and I think your worries will gradually fade.
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