I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
I think you should calm down a little. An unnaturally high level of excitement comes across to the other person too, and if your favorite girl starts thinking you’re creepy, it’s over.
More than anything, I think highly submissive women dislike dominant men who come on too strong.
It’s difficult to keep someone around through money alone. BDSM only works when you build a relationship of trust, based on your own appeal having made an impression on her to some extent. Of course, if you’re handsome, that’s a different story…
There’s no textbook or set formula for BDSM, but I think it’s best to first build a relationship where you can have ordinary sex, and then gradually introduce training.
Also, each tool has a proper way to use it, and there are various things you need to do, such as setting a safe word for emergencies, so be careful.
As for the equipment, honestly, I think almost anything will do. If the bed is only for sex, a waterbed could work, but if it’s also a room you’ll be living in, I think a regular coil mattress would be better.
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
A leash, nose hook, waterproof sheets (for dealing with squirting), rope, an enema? A ball gag? Some kind of electric massager.
Waterbeds make it hard to keep a stable position and move around, so I think a slightly firmer memory-foam mattress would be more comfortable later on, especially when getting on all fours.
I’ve never done full-on BDSM, though (´艸｀)
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Please don’t use a high-quality whip on your partner when your experience and knowledge are limited to what you can learn by asking on this Q&A site, which is far removed from the world of BDSM. There’s a technique to using a whip.
You should first go to an SM bar and learn from people who know what they’re doing.
As for the bed, it’s a matter of personal preference, but rather than worrying about the manufacturer, I find firmer mattresses easier for sex. Since waterbeds are available in love hotels, it’s probably not that difficult to have sex on one.
