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Sep 2, 2021 00:15
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I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
This is a psychological phenomenon known as cognitive dissonance.
Could it be that you’re the type who’s susceptible to limited-edition products and always finds seasonal sweets delicious?
For example, you may hold two assumptions: “I don’t like my papa” and “my time is valuable” (hypothetically speaking).
When those two assumptions coexist and you meet your papa, they clash: “I don’t like him, yet I’m giving up my valuable time for him.” This keeps you from feeling at peace.
To resolve this internal conflict, your mind deceives itself, thinking, “Since I’m meeting him, he must be someone I care about.”
This can happen to anyone, but women in particular tend to be more susceptible to it.
If this happens to you often, you may be more likely to develop feelings afterward when you sleep with a man you don’t actually like.
Please be careful.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Isn’t it kind of like stumbling into an incredibly edgy shop, getting carried away chatting with the staff, and ending up buying a ¥150,000 outfit on your credit card—only to get home and think, “Wait, when would I ever wear this?”
And then you upload private photos, update your comments, and so on…
On the other hand, if things are really that awkward, why do you meet that person again? People are fascinating.
Age: Private
👨 Male
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Post-nut clarity?
いっつ・みぃ
Male
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Other
It’s me.
If you like him when you’re together, isn’t that all that matters?
As long as you don’t start disliking him, I don’t think you should overthink it.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
There’s inevitably a difference in how I feel between:
the favorite girl I’m genuinely excited to go see,
and the girl I’m only keeping around, whom I’m not really looking forward to meeting and often think, after seeing her, that I won’t meet her again.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Men whose reflexive self-defense kicks in and who force themselves to believe, “I’m not pushing myself because I like her,” end up feeling uncomfortable later.
Men who don’t have to push themselves that hard won’t.
Something like that?