I’m the person who just asked about wanting to end things with a papa whose values don’t align with mine.
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Thank you to everyone who answered.
Many people suggested silently blocking him, but what if the papa reports to the management, “This person silently blocked me”? Would that mean I’d stop receiving introductions in the future or be forced to leave the service?
I only just joined, so being forced to leave because I silently blocked him would be really upsetting…
I’m Dai, a male member.
In reality, I feel like being left on read or blocked without a word happens quite often.
Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s okay. If I were in the man’s position, I’d at least want some kind of parting message, even if it was a complaint.
You won’t be forcibly banned just for blocking someone without saying anything.
Whether you end things with a silent block or say a few words before blocking them is ultimately a matter of the questioner’s personal values.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Since you’ve met three times, I think it would be best to send her a message with some reason why you can’t meet anymore, then block her and leave feedback.
It’s unlikely that she’ll leave feedback about you, but if she does leave negative feedback, staff will share it with male members who ask about you. Unless you have plenty of very positive feedback, even one negative review will mean the staff won’t recommend you. Any man who still makes an offer despite that would be rare, and most would probably withdraw their offer.
The reason men withdraw offers after seeing negative feedback is that members leave such feedback for the benefit of other men who may consider making an offer later. In your case, the problem is on the woman’s side, but unfortunately, men reading the feedback won’t be able to tell the details.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
If women were forcibly removed from the club just for blocking someone, their numbers would steadily decline and it would create a serious problem. Ending things without a word by blocking someone is that common.
However, if the man reports it to the club, leaving things as they are could make a bad impression on the staff.
So I think it would be best to take the following steps.
At the same time as—or shortly before—blocking the man, send the club some post-date feedback.
Give him a negative rating and write something along the lines of:
“Lately, I’ve started to wonder whether this person may lack common sense. I felt uneasy about continuing to see someone like that, so I ended things by blocking him. I’m sorry if he complains to the club.”
I also think it would be helpful to explain specifically what he did that seemed unreasonable.
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I don’t think you’ll be forcibly removed, but it could put you at a disadvantage if the man gives the club only his side of the story.
It might be best to properly tell him that you’re ending things and also provide feedback to the club.
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