About a man in his early 50s I met: he brought his own condoms and a women’s lubricant to our first intimate encounter. I told him I was on the pill and naturally lubricate easily, so we didn’t need them, and I didn’t use them. Then, for our next intimate encounter, he brought his personal vibrator—but it had clearly been used quite a lot.

I’m Shingo Lee (aka Shingori), a columnist. Personally, I have no problem with having sex without a condom as long as both people understand the risks. Anal sex and cunnilingus carry risks too, so if you’re comfortable with them, enjoy the kind of sex you like! When you have multiple adult toys, it can actually be pretty difficult to keep track of which one to use when. Storage can also be a challenge. So in situations like that, women should definitely speak up and say, “Please use a new one, and one that’s specifically for me.” Men should understand. I’m not saying this applies to everyone, but one common excuse for reusing toys is that they’ve been properly cleaned. I also get the impression that many women don’t worry that much about toys being reused. Those who do mind, however, may even object to using an in-house vibrator or one with a condom over it. I generally use condoms, and I’m careful about cleaning my vibrators and other toys. These days, many are washable, so I wash and disinfect them thoroughly. I don’t use brushes, so they won’t get scratched. Still, dried vaginal fluid can surprisingly be difficult to remove from grooves near the switch… In that case, unfortunately, I throw the toy away. It’s not very eco-friendly, though.

I’m Nana Ayase ☆ Is it because I’m on the pill? What? Because I take the pill? So you always do it raw? As for my well-used personal vibrator… people who’ve brought theirs when we met have disinfected it with Isodine. If you’re worried about it, bring your own vibrator. I have one too, though it’ll turn the bed into a pond ♡

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Haha! I don’t have one, though... Let’s just say there are people like that... I’m voting for Dai on this one!

I’m Dai, a male member. When I use adult toys, I bring new ones that I’ve only charged. I’d prefer her to use a new one, but since reusing them seems unhygienic, I at least ask her to put a new condom on it when it’s used. By the way, it’s not necessarily because toys aren’t used when she gets wet easily. Her reactions are different when I’m going down on her, fingering her, putting it inside her, or using a toy, so I enjoy them as different accents during sex.