I have a question about seeing a married female member.
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For example, if one of the spouses hires a private investigator and obtains evidence such as photos of us entering or leaving a hotel, how should we explain the situation to minimize the damage? Has anyone here experienced something similar, and how did you prepare?
・Say that neither of us even knows the other’s real name
・Say that we met on a dating site
・Honestly say that we met through a dating club
・Insist that neither of us—or that the woman—knew the other was married at all
・Continue to deny that we had an intimate relationship
・Say that we were meeting for meals and conversation to earn money, with no intimacy involved
・Or admit that we had an intimate relationship and explain that she was working as a compensated companion
And so on.
I feel that if we meet at a city hotel or luxury hotel, travel and meet by car, and immediately delete our messages, we might be able to come up with some plausible explanation. However, since some gentlemen also use love hotels, I’d appreciate any advice on how to prepare for the worst-case scenario.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
> Regarding dating a married female member.
That wording makes it sound like the questioner is a man. But then they say:
> Some male members also use love hotels.
So they seem to be a woman after all. It’s a strange question.
Also, they don’t say whether by “minimizing the damage,” they mean minimizing compensation payments or the impact on the divorce—or which kind of damage they’re trying to minimize.
In the first place, if you’ve been using love hotels, I don’t think there’s any way to minimize the damage at this point.
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I’m Hikōki, a male member.
In my case, I would:
● Be honest and say that we met through a dating club.
I used the club because I wanted to protect my family. It was a relationship based on financial support, not an affair, so I would consistently maintain that what I was doing was to protect my family.
As for whether we had an intimate relationship, I would say there’s no need to answer because it wasn’t an affair. I wouldn’t pretend not to know or refuse to answer—I’d simply maintain that there was no reason to worry about infidelity and that it was something entirely separate.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
In my case, if it involved my spouse, hiring a private investigator wouldn’t even be an option（笑）. Assuming it was for some other reason, I’d probably do what politicians, celebrities, and former Olympic athletes often do: keep a straight face and insist there was no physical relationship.
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I’m Ayase Nana♡
I didn’t know he was married.
I hide our LINE chat right away.
I don’t carry my phone around the house.
I keep the sound turned off.
We discuss in advance when neither of us can be contacted.
I go to see him dressed like an executive secretary—as if it’s work, lol.
I do think people who are still involved with their spouse should probably stay away from dating clubs.
At home, we either trade insults or completely ignore each other. Whoever brings up divorce first loses, so we’re just waiting for one of us to let it slip. It’s not like he gives me any living expenses anyway…
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