Have you ever supported a woman in starting her own business? How much did you provide, and in what form—such as a gift, investment, or loan? And what is your relationship with her like now?

I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist. I’ve lent around ¥50,000 before to help someone with the procedures for starting a business, but I really don’t recommend it. You should absolutely avoid it. It’s not about the amount of money—it goes beyond what you should be responsible for. If the other person doesn’t have enough capital, they need to revise their business plan or raise the funds themselves. Loans from a third party that let them skip those steps won’t help them become successful business owners in the long run. If it’s a loan you’d still want to make even at the cost of your own dick, then fine. But if you’re lending because of a little sexual desire, affection, or sense of familiarity, absolutely don’t do it.

I’m Taro, a male member. I’d advise against it. To be blunt, what women are looking for is a man who’ll simply hand over a lump sum with no strings attached. For men, it’s basically a game of seeing how much money they’re willing to throw away. If that isn’t the situation, things will almost certainly turn messy. I hear stories like that even involving the low seven figures. In fact, I was recently asked to cover someone’s repayment in a similar situation. She said things were fine when she borrowed the money, but now it’s awkward. I thought, “Well, obviously. Why should I care?” (lol) When you’ve just started with a dating club, you might get carried away thinking, “I’ve finally met my ideal woman,” but I think that’s probably an illusion. If that’s the kind of relationship you want, gain experience with around 100 women first, then look back at how much you gave the best one among them and think about it. It’s not about whether a larger amount is better—that amount is probably the level that feels right to you.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I’ve never had an experience like that myself, but if the subject ever came up, I’d gladly offer whatever knowledge I have to help her start her own business—rather than money, since I’m one of the poor people in the dating club.

I’ve heard of cases where someone was practically fleeced under the guise of an “investment.” Since he’s happy to give her the money, I suppose it’s no problem. We’re talking an eight-figure sum. Marika