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Aug 10, 2021 13:23
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I already knew he’d been lying when he said I was the only one he met, and I didn’t really care that he was lying. But once I found out what kind of woman she is, I suddenly lost interest.
Even in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I guess your feelings start to fade when you feel you’re not being treated as important.
If anyone has any advice on how to forget about it or move on, I’d really appreciate it.
5 answers
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
I completely understand how you feel. I was deeply hurt too when I found out that my papa (a male supporter) had been secretly seeing other girls. I remember thinking, “So he’s just another pathetic guy after all.” Which is pretty hypocritical of me, considering I’m in the same boat for getting involved in something as silly as papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but that’s honestly how I felt.
After that, my feelings cooled a little, and I was able to look at things more calmly, for better or worse. I still like my papa very much, but I don’t love him, and I’ve also lost much of my interest in him as a person.
The upside was that I started making the most of every date, knowing that we could break up at any time. As a result, he came to think more highly of me, and the way he treated me—including my allowance—improved even further. It turned into a virtuous cycle.
So I think you should use this as an opportunity to further polish your attitude—or rather, your performance—as a “good papa-katsu girl.” Make your time together into wonderful memories for him, and face the relationship with the mindset that, when you eventually part ways, you’ll make him regret losing you. That may be the best you can do. Or perhaps you should just end things right now.
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I think it’s best to assume from the start that men are just like that. If you put your complete trust in someone and get deceived, the shock is devastating (tears).
And you should find yourself a new papa (a male supporter), too.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
It’s kind of like having a vague suspicion that you’re being cheated on—once you know for sure, your feelings cool off.
If you’re the type who can maintain a transactional relationship even after losing interest, you can keep going. If not, you’ll probably have no choice but to end things.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think you should look for a new papa (a male supporter) who truly only dates you.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
I’m not sure how to handle it, but if you’ve lost interest, I think you should look for a new papa (a male supporter).