I’m the person who asked, “What’s with men who try to please women even when they haven’t been asked?”
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The reason I dislike toys is that they try to make me climax, and then continue using them even after I’ve finished.
Don’t men feel like, after ejaculating, “Phew… I’m exhausted. I don’t need to do anything else,” or “It hurts when I’m touched after ejaculating, so please don’t touch me”?
That’s how I feel. Climaxing leaves me exhausted and limp, and I don’t feel like doing anything. Being touched afterward also becomes painful, so I just want to be left alone. I don’t want them to use toys because I want to avoid that situation.
Are there any other women who feel this way?
I’ve been pretending to climax to get through it, but I’m getting tired of it.
I’m Dai, a male member.
Quite a few women find it ticklish, painful, or simply exhausting after climaxing once.
I’d prefer them to tell me about that preference beforehand.
If I know in advance, I can adjust how we play—for example, teasing her when she’s close to climaxing.
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
That sounds difficult, so I think you should clearly tell your partner:
“Being touched after I finish hurts, so I want you not to do anything.”
You should communicate that clearly.
If they still ignore you, I think it would be best to end the relationship.
If you don’t say anything, they won’t know.
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Be clear about your boundaries.
You don’t have to put up with anything you’re uncomfortable with.
Otherwise, they may not realize that you’re only pretending out of kindness, and it can encourage the occasional guy who gets the wrong idea—thinking things like, “I’m really something, helping her grow and develop.”
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Some women don’t want to go any further after the first time. But there are also women who are fine with going multiple times. If you don’t say you’re uncomfortable with something, the other person won’t know.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
Generally speaking, yes—it’s just as you wrote.
The man may simply lack experience.
You might not be sexually compatible, or perhaps the only thing you can do is develop a pattern that lets you climax so fully that even he feels satisfied. If the man feels you’re truly compatible and is satisfied, I think toys will no longer be necessary.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Yes, there are men like that. I’ve been told, “Once is enough for me.” I apologized and said, “Sorry,” and after that, I made sure not to push myself.
That said, unless someone tells me otherwise, I’m basically the type who likes to take the lead and please my partner, so I tend to go all out on my own.
So if that’s how you feel, you should tell the man you’re seeing—not here.
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