I’m Dai, a male member.
I don’t think he’s necessarily looking to simply get things over with through an adult relationship (intimate).
He may be planning to take you somewhere like a café for a date. Some men also don’t want to eat a large meal at night.
Also, are you listed as Type C or Type D?
If so, men are aware that an adult relationship (intimate) may be part of the arrangement, so it’s quite common for them not to want to feel full beforehand.
So you can’t judge that he’s a bad man based on this alone.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
> Do you want to keep it short and just have an adult relationship?
I take that to mean they only want H.
When you receive an offer like that, you could reply:
“It says you’d like to skip the meal, but what exactly is your purpose? Why is that?”
The staff will probably confirm with the man.
However, even after confirming, there’s a good chance he isn’t a good person. So I think it’s best to reply:
“I’m concerned about meeting someone who doesn’t want to have a meal first, so I’ll have to decline the offer.”
This is Fuu, a column writer.
You probably either accidentally selected the wrong radio button in the template message, or you’re thinking of having a casual drink at a bar or getting tea and discussing the terms of the arrangement—right?
Why not ask through the club?
Something like this should work:
“Just to confirm, are we meeting at 6:00 p.m.? Should I eat beforehand? It might be difficult for me to have dinner after finishing work at that time.”
I’m Kazu, a male member.
There could be various reasons: maybe he usually eats at 4 p.m. or 10 p.m., has to eat at home, or has dietary restrictions. Of course, as you imagined, he may simply want to move quickly to an adult relationship (intimate).
Also, that option is selected via a checkbox when making an offer, so it’s possible he accidentally selected it instead of the option next to it.
You could ask, “It says, ‘Please eat before you come’ under the meal section. What exactly do you mean by that?” Or you could reply, “I find it unpleasant because it makes me feel like I’m being taken lightly, so I’d prefer to decline offers that don’t include a meal.” An offer is, as the word suggests, simply a proposal or invitation; you don’t necessarily have to accept it without question. If anything is unclear, you can ask for clarification, and if you want to decline, you can do so while giving your reason.
Incidentally, even if a man writes something like, “I have dietary restrictions,” the club may omit or soften that information, perhaps to avoid sharing too many personal details. He may have intended that information for the staff and not wanted it passed on to the woman. The same applies to messages from women to men.
Assuming the man may have included some explanation when making the offer, I think it’s best not to jump to conclusions. If there’s anything you don’t understand, reply to the LINE message notifying you of the offer and ask for clarification.
