I'm a woman in my 20s and a member here. I'd like to ask for advice about allowances. The papa (a male supporter) I'm seeing supports several other girls, and sometimes he takes me and a few of them out for meals or to have fun. However, if there is no intimacy, he never gives an allowance, regardless of the type of arrangement. I accept his invitations without knowing whether I’ll be the one he becomes intimate with. I’m fine with a one- or two-hour meal, but when I’m kept there for several hours and he ends up being intimate with another girl while I receive no allowance, I feel lonely and really hurt. I’d like to ask beforehand, “Will you be with me today?” but I’m worried he’ll think I’m jealous, which could damage the relationship between the girls, and I might also upset him, so I can never bring it up. He says he doesn’t like girls who are too focused on money, so I’m unsure how to explain how I feel.
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The only option I can think of is giving up on the possibility of intimacy and declining to meet as a group. Is there anything else I could do? Thank you in advance.
Just one word: Gross…
The delusional men parading several women around, and the girls eagerly flocking to them…
A few days ago, I stayed at a members-only resort and saw exactly that kind of group there. They may not have cared, but they stood out like a sore thumb and were the subject of ridicule.
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> I can’t think of any option besides giving up on the possibility of intimacy and declining to meet as a group.
That seems like the best approach.
> I’d really like to ask beforehand, “Would you be willing to do it with me today?”
It sounds like he’s the type who prefers to decide once you’ve met, so I’m not sure he’d be able to give you a clear answer even if you asked.
> It would be difficult because it could damage the relationship between the girls.
If they’ve already built a relationship with each other, then it’s only natural that you’d find it hard to bring up.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It sounds just like the inner chambers of a shogun’s castle. Since that’s what this man insists on, his approach probably isn’t going to change.
Is he the only papa (male supporter) you’re seeing?
I think you’d be better off seeing someone else…
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
That guy is seriously disgusting…
He gives me the creeps, honestly…
Forget coming up with ideas—let’s shove a broken pair of chopsticks up his ass.
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Do you want to keep seeing him?
How about forming some kind of union among the girls, making signs saying that an allowance is required even if nothing intimate happens, and standing up to him together?
It might end up being 5 only for the girls who do it and nothing for the others—or 3 for everyone.
But keeping all those girls tied down while not paying an allowance is pretty stingy of him, so maybe you should just walk away.
Although, really, it all comes down to the first line.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
Umm... this has gotten kind of complicated, hasn’t it?
Being invited out and not getting an allowance is just a waste of time, right?
I wouldn’t go, but it sounds like this man wants to build a harem.
What does his relationship with the other girls have to do with anything?
If you want something, go after it. And if he doesn’t like girls who are all about money... well, of course he doesn’t—he doesn’t have any.
If you want to be part of his harem, then go ahead. But it’ll just be a waste of your time.
Personally, I’d pass.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
It’s a difficult situation. I suppose the definition of not being overly money-focused is that she still comes even in circumstances like that without showing displeasure. Having multiple girls involved also puts you at a disadvantage. Since you’re not the only one to her—you’re just one of them—it probably doesn’t take much for her to cut you off. It would be best to gather information carefully while negotiating.
Rather than asking, “Will you see me today?” it would be better to ask, “How do you choose the people you date?” You could also ask whether she decides in advance or makes her choice based on the atmosphere when you meet. That will help you understand how to improve your chances of being chosen, as well as recognize when you’re fighting a losing battle.
If you take things too far, she’ll notice and cut you off, so it’s best to proceed carefully without making your intentions obvious and adjust things to improve your odds, even if only slightly. Either way, it’s not very efficient, so I don’t think you’ll find a fundamental solution unless you create other options as well.
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