I’m a woman in my 20s who works in an office. I recently received an offer from a man in his 60s, and he said, “I made you an offer because you weren’t wearing anything on your nails, so I thought you really worked in an office.”

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I was surprised, but I figured nails must be prohibited at his workplace, so I simply thanked him at the time. At my workplace, subtle nail polish is fine, so most of the women in office jobs wear it. Of course, nobody has extremely long nails from acrylic extensions or anything like that, though some do keep them a little on the longer side. I used to wear nail polish too, but I’m just taking a break because I felt my nails were getting a bit weak. I’m thinking of starting again soon. We’ve already made plans to meet again, and I get the feeling that he likes me. I’d like to explain beforehand that even women who work in offices sometimes wear nail polish, but how should I bring it up so that he’ll understand? And before that, do the office workers around you wear nail polish? As I was writing this question, I started wondering whether I might simply be working in an unusual environment...

Answer 1

I think what matters to him isn’t whether you wear nail polish, but whether you’re someone who works properly in an office job. So maybe tell him something like, “I usually wear simple nails,” and see how he reacts. If he really doesn’t like nails at all, you can decide then whether to remove them. Unlike in the past, if they’re gel nails rather than regular polish, you can’t exactly just take them off whenever. So I suppose it comes down to choosing between your nails and that man. Personally, I think something understated would probably be acceptable—but I can’t guarantee it. Marika

Answer 2

I’m Dai, a male member. To begin with, I think some men in their 40s and older may not be particularly fond of nail art. In fact, I’ve never met a woman with flashy nails on an actual date.

Answer 3

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. Based on his message alone, it’s clear that he prefers someone who works in an office or has a genuine day job. Beyond that, though, it’s hard to tell whether he also dislikes manicures. My guess is that he strongly wants to avoid women in the nightlife industry or those who specialize in papa-katsu, so I think you should ask whether manicures are also important to him. He may simply dislike people in professions associated with flashy nails. If it’s a tasteful manicure that office workers commonly wear, he might actually be happy with it.

Answer 4

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. > How should I explain it so he’ll understand? I think you’re better off putting that idea aside. Rather than trying to get him to understand, I think it’s better to approach it with the mindset of accommodating his preferences. If the man said, “I offered to meet you because, since you weren’t wearing anything on your nails, I assumed you really worked in an office,” then that’s probably the kind of woman he prefers. What other office workers do, or what workplaces in general are like, isn’t relevant. When you meet this man, I think the right thing to do is not wear anything on your nails. Going forward, it would probably be best to leave your nails unpainted whenever you see him. If you’ve been seeing each other for over a year and feel you can talk about it, you could perhaps tell him that you normally do paint your nails but simply left them bare for your dates. For now, though, I think it’s best to keep them unpainted when you meet him.

Answer 5

I’m Kazu, a male member. We don’t specifically prohibit it, but none of the women here seem to wear nail polish. Why not ask, “My workplace doesn’t prohibit nail polish, so I’m thinking of getting my nails done. Do you dislike women who wear nail polish?”

Answer 6

Ayase Nana♡ I work in healthcare, but I still get my nails done（笑） Because I wear gloves all the time, so no one can see them♪ Nails make you look more glamorous, and it seems to give people the impression that you’ve made an effort for the person you’re meeting. That’s not the only person making you an offer, is it? I think very few people would say anything about your nails. Also, I honestly don’t really understand what you’re trying to say. As for how to get them to agree… just say that your nails are weak and you need them reinforced. >“I’m in a special environment”? What does that even mean?

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