Is it just my imagination, or do the more beautiful female members seem less likely to be won over by compliments about their looks?
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Even when I tell them I like pretty, cute faces, they don’t seem interested, and even when I offer the maximum allowance I can afford, the arrangement doesn’t last.
Is it because they have more competition?
What can I compliment a beautiful woman on besides her appearance to make her happy?
I’m Dai, a male member.
First of all, this isn’t a game—just complimenting a woman’s looks won’t make her fall for you.
Even in a regular relationship, it’s rare for someone to fall for you after just one or two dates, right?
It’s important to value each date and build trust over the course of seeing each other several times.
If you approach things that way, she probably won’t cut things off midway.
By the way, as long as the allowance is above the woman’s minimum, I don’t think the exact amount is what determines the outcome.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I don’t go out of my way to flatter beautiful women. If anything, I’ll tease them just enough. And I try to make them laugh. That’s my basic strategy.
It depends on the person, and chemistry matters, so it doesn’t always work.
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
> I feel like the prettier the female member is, the less likely she is to be won over just by compliments about her looks. Am I imagining that?
Really?
You’re only realizing that now?
Have you not had much contact with women until now?
It’s not your imagination—it’s common sense.
> Even when I give my absolute maximum allowance, things don’t last.
Well, I assume she’s receiving more from other people.
If what you’re offering is already your absolute maximum, then I think it’ll be difficult to compete on allowance alone.
While offering your maximum allowance, you’ll also need to appeal to her in ways unrelated to the allowance.
Didn’t she have any hobbies or interests you shared?
If the conversation really clicks, I think the relationship can continue even if your allowance is slightly lower than someone else’s—though it would be difficult if it were substantially lower.
This comes down to your ability to connect with people.
It depends on whether you, as a person, have an appealing quality that draws her in.
> Is it because there are so many rivals?
Exactly.
And on top of that, those rivals are usually offering a higher allowance.
> What can you compliment a beautiful woman on besides her appearance to make her happy?
That’s a shallow question...
You’re thinking about it far too casually, as if all you need to do is find something to compliment.
I think you should focus more on what you can do to make her genuinely like you.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I’ve been told I’m beautiful and pretty since I was little, so I’m used to hearing it.
Compliment me on something else instead. Find something we have in common or a hobby we both enjoy. I’d be happier if you said something like, “You know how it’s like this…?”
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
You just need to make her enjoy herself.
In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), a papa (a male supporter) should be focused on making the woman happy. It’s not about enjoying yourself—you should be dating women you genuinely want to make happy.
With someone like that, you can relax, not worry about being careful, say whatever’s on your mind, complain, speak openly with each other, blow off steam, and have an incredibly good time. Seeing how happy and excited she looks—that’s where the real value lies.
Beautiful women get plenty of offers and generous (well-paying) allowances, so they can pick and choose. But they often have to be careful, can’t complain, and don’t really have fun, which can be stressful. If you can stand out in that area, they may say, “It’s not about the money.” Even as a low-paying papa, you might become her ideal supporter—or her one and only…
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Beautiful women are used to hearing that, after all. Some have become completely jaded, thinking, “Why would I be happy being complimented on something I was born with? I didn’t put any effort into it.” On the other hand, if a woman has monetized her looks, she might hear “You’re beautiful” and secretly think, “Got a mark!” before moving in to work him over.
At first, there’s not much information to go on, so you can’t help but judge by appearances. But whether things continue long-term comes down to personality. So make sure you pay attention to who she is on the inside.
“ You’re cute” and “You’re beautiful” may be about as meaningless as the stock phrases used in customer service: “Are you looking for something?” “That suits you.” “How cute.”
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I have a friend who looks remarkably like Dilraba, the stunning actress of Uyghur heritage. We often get carried away talking about our shared interest in comedy, as well as work since we’re in the same industry. We hardly ever talk about looks.
I like this friend, but not just because of her appearance—I like her personality too. Maybe you should try to see the woman for more than just her looks as well.
That said, to be blunt, I can’t help wondering whether your allowance isn’t enough to satisfy her… What do you think? Ultimately, I think it comes down to compatibility, including how you view the value of the allowance.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Speaking generally, beautiful women—not just female members—are used to being told they’re beautiful. In some cases, they may even be tired of men approaching them solely because of their looks, so it can have the opposite effect.
I think it’s important to treat women with respect as individuals.
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