If it’s your birthday, of course you’d want them to celebrate it, right?
Sometimes you just want to hint at it a little.
I totally get that.
If you mention it and they ignore you, there’s nothing you can do.
If they don’t respond with something like, “When is it?” or “Is there anything you want?” then saying more will only be pointless—or even backfire.
You’ll just have to accept that’s the kind of person they are and let it go.
Marika
I’m Hikouki, a male member.
You feel uncomfortable saying it, but you try anyway—and then it feels terribly lonely.
Honestly, if I were the man you’re seeing, I wouldn’t like it.
> Would it be off-putting to say, “It’s my birthday, so please buy me this”?
If she’s a club woman or a papa-katsu woman, I don’t think she’d go out of her way to say that unless he brought it up first.
I think it’s best to answer only if he asks.
I’ve given gifts like wallets, bags, and cars before, but never because someone at a club explicitly asked me to buy them.
A thoughtful man might give you something you need or a gift that would make you happy at just the right time. But based on your question alone, it also feels as though the man you’re seeing may already sense what you’re thinking.
If you really wanted to say something, perhaps, “Make sure you celebrate my birthday.”
If you can’t look forward to it without saying that, then maybe this is a relationship held together only by money, where neither of you truly appreciates the other—in other words, one that’s already over. Or, if possible, maybe it’s a relationship you’d want to end as soon as you find someone better.
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer this one too.
There are all kinds of men.
Some may think, “I give you an allowance every time, and you still want something else?”
Some may celebrate with nothing more than a cake on the day.
Others might brush off the subject of your birthday, then surprise you with a present that day.
(Though sometimes you end up getting something you don’t even want…)
And some will ask in advance, “Is there anything you’d like?”
(Obviously, that means they’ll buy you whatever you want.)
It really varies.
Even if this particular person didn’t give you anything, if he otherwise gives you your allowance properly and treats you well, I think you should continue seeing him as usual.
But if you feel, “No, I can’t accept that,” you could try acting a little sulky and saying something like, “I can’t believe you didn’t get me anything for my birthday.”
That said, it could also lead to the relationship ending.
I think the best option is to look for other papas as well. You may feel disappointed because you’re seeing only one man.
If you date multiple men, you may have someone who celebrates your birthday.
You might even end up happily complaining about how to fit all your birthday dates into your schedule. You may need to arrange dates for your birthday eve—or even the eve of your birthday eve.
I think it’s worth looking for another man even now. There may still be time.
Once you’re seeing multiple men, even a papa who doesn’t give you a birthday present might start to look like a good papa.
