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I’m Aya, a female member. I didn’t get around to answering your earlier question, so I’m responding here. I think when you have no experience with men, you tend to develop romantic fantasies about them—both positively and negatively. When I was in my teens, I was also something of an idealistic romantic. But the more men I dated, the more I experienced both their good and unpleasant sides, and I feel I gradually came to understand that they’re all just human. At the same time, though, I became more realistic, which also had the downside of putting off romantic men with little dating experience. Last year, I almost dated—or rather, did date—a younger guy who was practically a virgin, but he was such a romantic that our values didn’t really align. I feel bad about that. Still, I think guys like him might be a good match for women like you. So I think you’d be better off getting close to men who, like you, seem to have little dating experience but are sincere. You don’t have to force yourself to come across as experienced in love—there are plenty of men who won’t be put off by your romantic side.