I’m Taro, a male member.
If she says she’s okay with it, then it should be fine, shouldn’t it? It’s perfectly reasonable to ask, “Wait, are you really okay with this?” But continuing to worry after she’s said she’s fine seems a bit excessive.
Being considerate and reading between the lines is important, but it can also create a distance where neither person’s true feelings are clear. Of course, that kind of consideration matters during the first few meetings, but once you’ve built a certain level of trust, I think it’s better to aim for a relationship where you can be honest with each other. If she says she’s okay, then even if you’re still concerned, you should accept that. I think that’s what it means to trust someone.
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
For now, I think it would be best to wait and see whether she bleeds again next time before deciding what to do.
I’m a little concerned that, from a woman’s perspective, bringing up something like lotion from the second meeting onward might feel uncomfortable.
It may be a good idea to bring some along just in case, but I think you should make sure you both agree before using it.
The most important thing, as you mentioned, is probably to spend about twice as long on foreplay as usual.
I’m not sure whether you avoid using your fingers because you’re worried about hurting her, but once you’ve done enough foreplay, I think it’s fine to gently check with your fingers how ready she is.
My name is Shingo Lee (Shingori), and I’m a male member.
I once met a woman with quite a bit of experience who said she experienced bleeding about nine times out of ten.
I believe the condition was called cervical ectropion, where the softer part of the cervix protrudes toward the vaginal side.
To cut to the chase, I was able to be intimate with her, satisfy her, and avoid causing any bleeding.
Based on my own experience, here are three tips:
① Take your time with foreplay (without inserting fingers)
Vaginal lubrication helps reduce friction and provides protection, so make sure to spend plenty of time on foreplay. I usually spend 20–30 minutes on it.
If you’re not confident, there’s nothing wrong with using lubricant. It’s also a considerate thing to do.
② Stimulate the front rather than the deeper area (around the G-spot)
In the missionary position, I moved with the idea of applying pressure to the G-spot toward the front rather than going deeper.
Place a pillow or something similar under the woman’s hips, hold her legs together, and use the tip of the penis to apply pressure around the G-spot.
Deep penetration is more likely to cause injury, so focus on helping her enjoy stimulation closer to the entrance.
③ Don’t thrust—use vibration instead
Thrusting mainly feels good for men and isn’t particularly important for women. For women, the pressure itself is what feels good.
When I was intimate with this woman, I kept the part inside her relatively still and used only very slight back-and-forth movements, trying to create as little friction as possible.
I’m not very good at explaining it, but this is the idea:
1. Place the pad of your index finger against your cheek.
2. Even without separating your finger from your cheek, you can move your finger back and forth, right?
3. Move in the same way, without letting your finger and cheek separate—in this case, without letting the vaginal wall and the tip of the penis separate.
The above may help, but communicate well with your partner and try different things together.
I hope you and your partner have a wonderful time.
