I’m a male member. I’ve realized that whether I meet a woman a second time is strongly influenced by whether she occasionally sends me casual messages (other than saying she wants to meet), but it seems that only a minority of women do this. Do you all send or receive messages like that? Also, doesn’t the club offer any advice on how to turn a first date into a second one?

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I don’t really see it that way. For me, it’s simply whether I want to meet someone or not. Of course, I’ll reach out to the women I want to see as well. That said, some women don’t like saying they want to meet because it can come across as asking for an allowance, so it may be best to keep that in mind too.

I’m Maezawa from the club office, and I’ll answer this as well. > Doesn’t the club teach women tips on how to turn a first date into a second one? You may be particularly influenced by whether the woman regularly sends you casual messages—not just “I want to see you”—but that doesn’t necessarily apply to every man. Some men may not realize a woman is interested unless she invites them directly, while others may dislike women making the first move. I’m not sure whether there’s one approach that works for all men, so I think it would be difficult to teach something we don’t really know. More importantly, have you told the club what works for you personally? If you did, the club could tell women, “This is the kind of approach that works well with this man.” But wouldn’t you end up disliking it if everyone started doing exactly the same thing?

I’m Kazu, a male member. > I’ve found that whether a woman sends casual messages regularly (other than “I want to see you again”) has a significant impact on whether I decide to meet her a second time. What kind of research did you conduct, and how did you arrive at that conclusion? Personally, even if I receive messages from a woman I have no intention of seeing again, I just find them burdensome. > Do you all send or receive messages like that? I do receive them sometimes. If a woman I don’t plan to see again messages me, I feel bad that I can’t meet her expectations, so I leave the messages unread. Once I do that, she stops messaging me. > Doesn’t the club also give advice on how to turn a first date into a second one? I think the key is different for every man. In my case, to lead to a second date, she needs to talk about things I find enjoyable over dinner, and either she or I needs to climax in bed. I don’t recall ever telling the club staff this, nor do I want them to pass it on to women. Even if a woman heard this from the staff, I doubt she’d know what to do with the information. Should I let the staff know which spots and approaches feel good to me down there?（笑）