Since the café required payment upfront, he handed me 1,000 yen and said, “Go ahead and get whatever you like.”
Because we were meeting around lunchtime, I hadn’t eaten yet, but I had to keep both food and a drink within the 1,000 yen.
The café charged around 500 yen for coffee, so I could only get a small pastry. But when I returned to the table, he said, “Is that going to be enough!?”
Did he mean that I should have paid extra out of my own pocket and bought more?
Since we were meeting around lunchtime, was I at fault for not eating beforehand because I assumed I’d be able to have a meal?
It left me feeling uneasy, so I wanted to ask what others think.
Maezawa from the executive office here—I’ll answer as well.
I’m honestly surprised that a man would take you to a restaurant where you have to pay upfront.
> Since we were meeting at lunchtime, I thought we’d be having a meal, so was I wrong not to eat beforehand…?
Normally, if you meet around lunchtime, you’d expect him to treat you to a nice lunch, and I think that’s what most men do.
I think you just happened to run into a man who wasn’t very considerate.
Go ahead and submit your feedback as it is.
That way, the staff will know what kind of man he was, too.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
“Even if it’s just coffee, I’ll give you 10,000 yen. If that’s what you like…”
P.S. Kazu, are you talking about letter dating? If it’s you, Kazu, I don’t think either option would be a problem.
The advantage is that women can screen out people like this in advance, saving themselves a lot of wasted time.
Since what matters most is what’s on the inside, I think being able to find that out beforehand is a major benefit for women.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
When she said, “Is that enough!?” I should have replied, “Since it was lunchtime, I thought we’d be having a meal together.”
Then she might have pulled out a few more thousand-yen bills.
I don’t think either of us was at fault—it was just an unfortunate misunderstanding.
As an aside, I once had a first date at Starbucks because the woman wanted to meet at 3 p.m. We paid together.
Meeting at an awkward time can be a hassle to coordinate.
I’m mentioning this for Paper Airplane, but I still don’t like letter dates.（笑）
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