I have a papa (a male supporter) who may be self-conscious about being small down there and keeps it covered with a towel, so he won’t let me see it. It really is small enough that I can understand why he wants to hide it. He also immediately turns off the lights, saying it’s embarrassing for me. Sometimes you can tell whether someone has an STI by looking, so I should probably see it, right?

I’m Taro, a male member. I suppose the risk would be lower if you took a bath together, examined her carefully up close under fixed lighting, scrubbed thoroughly with body wash after retracting the foreskin, and washed with Isodine—but that would basically be sex work, wouldn’t it? Normally, I think people get close while avoiding mucous-membrane contact, then make their judgment using their sense of smell and touch. There’s also this theory that “if the flow involves more taking it out than putting it in, you won’t get infected.” The technique is to let saliva and other fluids flow freely, provide plenty of liquid on your end, and prevent secretions containing pathogens from entering your body. I don’t know whether it really works, but I feel like a lot of both men and women use it. P.S. This was supposed to be about STIs, so I feel sorry for the man who was described as having a small penis and publicly declared to be small, even though that had nothing to do with the topic.