Even when people tell me I need to explain exactly what I dislike, I can’t write the details because my papa reads this site too. Even if I change the wording, I feel like he’d figure it out… How can I ask for advice here without being identified?

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this too. > How can I ask for advice here without getting caught? Just ask your question normally. Even if your papa says, “Is this about me?” you can simply respond, “I guess there are other people in similar situations.” I don’t think you’d necessarily be found out just for asking a question here, but it’s probably best to avoid mentioning any specific venues or other identifying details. Another option is to become an answerer yourself. If you post various answers, other answerers may take an interest in you. Then you might be able to ask for advice there. If you’re okay with getting a response from just Maezawa, you can send me a message through the contact form at the bottom of the question box. I do reply, although it may take longer when I’m busy. > Some papas are so obsessed with this site that they’re practically like devoted followers. If he were truly a devoted follower, I’d expect him to give a generous allowance, be kind, not be controlling, and pay the usual allowance even for dinner only (no intimacy). He also wouldn’t do anything so awful that you’d need to seek advice about it. If that’s not the case, then he isn’t really a devoted follower. Also, if someone boasts about having met President Kida or having met Maezawa, they seem a little untrustworthy to me. Normally, I don’t think people would go out of their way to mention things like that. Of course, it’s different if the subject naturally comes up in conversation. I’m only talking about people who brag or act boastful. > I’d like all the answerers to be more aware that many people read their posts. Since this site has become a place where people learn the basics and model behavior for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), please be careful not to implant strange ideas in papas’ heads. I’d really love for you to become an answerer too and post lots of solid advice about the basics and proper standards of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Is there something you dislike about the person you’re seeing? At a club, both people already have to be considerate of each other, so if you’re having that kind of problem, you’re simply not compatible. You’re better off breaking up—you’re not going to change the relationship.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I used to focus on giving model answers, but these days I answer based on my emotions, momentum, and passion in the moment. That’s because the club expects its respondents to give not only accurate answers, but passionate ones as well. In other words, the people who use the answers here as the model or standard for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are the ones at fault. We respondents bear no responsibility and have done nothing wrong. Let me repeat: the people at fault are those who quote the answers here, use them as the basis for their own activities, or force them on their partners. The standard you need to focus on is what the person right in front of you is looking for.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Because respondents are mindful that many people will read their answers, and because they want to respond appropriately, they ask for specific details instead of blindly agreeing with or comforting someone who says they were treated terribly. What seems terrible to you may not necessarily seem terrible to a third party. For example, some women might consider it awful if they don’t receive an allowance of 20 each time. I think you should phrase your question in vague enough terms that you can’t be identified—just describe it as something that could happen to someone other than you as well.