Hello.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. I wouldn’t recommend getting involved with a man who imposes one-sided terms. Ultimately, it’s your decision, and I think you’ll face more disadvantages than benefits if you’re with a man who can’t respect that. Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about fulfilling a woman’s wishes—that’s what makes men happy—so you wouldn’t want him attaching conditions to it, right? Statements like “I’ll marry you if you do this” are the worst. There’s also a high risk that the relationship will eventually—or perhaps sooner than expected—come to an end.

Maezawa from the president’s office here, answering your question as well. > If I report to the club that he pressured me, will they warn him, and will he figure out that I was the one who reported him? As a rule, we caution him without revealing who made the report. That said, based on the timing, he may assume it was the person he most recently went on a date with, so there is a possibility he could figure it out. If you’re worried, you could write something like this in your feedback: “Just to be safe, I plan to continue seeing him, so please take every precaution to ensure he absolutely cannot find out it was me.” It would also be a good idea to ask the club not to contact him for confirmation.

Good morning. I’m Kazu, a male member. When you submit a report, the staff will ask whether they may verify the facts with the man. When sending your feedback, I think it’s fine to ask them not to verify the facts. In the questioner’s case, you’ll probably explain the situation when asking them to hide the man from your view, so the process should go more smoothly. If you ask them not to verify the facts, it won’t immediately lead to a warning or disciplinary action against the man. However, the information will still be recorded in the staff’s internal notes, and apparently, a warning or disciplinary action may be taken once similar reports accumulate. So if you say you don’t want the facts verified, he won’t find out that you reported him.